DH and my dad...

[Danielle]

:sigh

I'm just at a loss right now. Dh and my dad had "words". They are both very stubborn men but I love them both dearly. I also hate them both right now for putting me in the middle. I feel like neither one really cares about my feelings, they just care about being right.

So, here's what happened. My dad came to visit this weekend, dh didn't feel like being social and pretty much stayed in our room while dad visited me and the kids. My dad got pissed that B didn't socialize and called today to berate me and B and accuse B of being uninvolved with the kids etc. (not true at all). I was really upset and told dh what my dad said. B called my dad and they argued and then my dad hung up on him.

I'm just sick right now because I know my dad and he tends to hold grudges for a long time. I feel like nothing will ever be the same between them and it kills me.

I guess I'm just venting... unusual for me as a lot of you know, I'm usually pretty private, but I really need some friends right now.

[Desirae]

:squeeze I'm sorry Danielle.
I hope your dad was just in an odd mood today and that they will both be able to talk through this and get past it. :hugs

[Kami]

I am so sorry Danielle! I hope everything turns out ok!

[Jejune]

Danielle, I'm sorry. I know how family tensions can really tear at people. I've been in a similar place - not the same, but similar - and it was hard. I hope the storm blows over quickly and you can get back to normal. :squeeze

[Danielle]

Thanks guys. Things have gone from bad to worse here... dh is now saying that he doesn't want to be the cause of problems between my family and I and maybe we'd be better off without him :(. I know he's just upset but I hate that this has come between us.

[Desirae]

Oh Danielle.:cry I'm sorry he's feeling so hurt about all of this. I will pray for you all.:hugs:hugs:hugs

[Danielle]

Thanks Des. I appreciate it.

[wendygrace]

Oh, I'm so sorry you're going through all this. *hugs* to you and I hope something is worked out.

[Brooke]

:squeeze Danielle

I truly hope that this gets resolved, in a good way, and things get back to normal for you. If you ever need to vent, I'm here. :squeeze

[Jo]

:hugs I was just in a position like this with Dave and my dad. I still won't say which one I thought was more right. It is not a fun position to be in. Dave is very dramatic and tends to escalate with his feelings. He has been know to say similar things as B. It is a tough position for you to be in. I hope after a good nights sleep things will simmer down and both of them will be more rational.:hugs

[Kristi]

I am so sorry Danielle. :hugs I hope that they can move past it and have some peace between them.

[Danielle]

Thanks ladies :hugs. Please keep us in your prayers/thoughts as we are still really struggling. I hardly slept last night. I love them both dearly and I can't imagine having to choose between them.

[Kristen]

:hugs Danielle! I'm really sorry. There have been some issues between Steve and my family, and it is very very hard when that happens. :(

I hope you guys can work it out!

[Danielle]

Thanks Kristen :).

[Lisa]

:hugs

[Christine]

Danielle, I'm sorry. I know how family tensions can really tear at people. I've been in a similar place - not the same, but similar - and it was hard. I hope the storm blows over quickly and you can get back to normal. :squeeze

Exactly that. I'm in a similar place right now and it's awful when two people you love so much just can't get along. I do hope it passes quickly!

[Danielle]

Thanks ladies. I really need the hugs today. Things are so tense and dh keeps saying things will be better for eveyone if we separate. I keep trying to tell him it won't be better for me or the kids... I honestly feel like someone died, I'm in deep grief and I'm barely functioning.

[Kristen]

Gosh, that seems like such an over-reaction on his part!!! I really hope he can calm down and see things a little more clearly.

I'm really sorry, hun! :hugs

[Amy J]

that stinks Danielle! How is everything today?

[Sarah]

I'm sorry Danielle. Tension between husband and dad is so hard. I've been in a similar situation, but time has made it much better. :hugs

[Desirae]

I agreewith Kristen.. He really seems to be overreacting! :hugs

[Danielle]

Thanks ladies. Dh and I are working though this together. I think it will take awhile to rebuild his relationship with my dad though... too many things were said :(.

[MathSpeak]

:( I'm sorry Danielle!!! I hope DH continues to work with you on this...

[Desirae]

:( I'm sorry to hear that it's going to be dificult. I'm happy to hear that you two are better though.:hugs