Maid of Honor

[babywearing]

So my friend is getting married and this will be the first time that I'm actually IN a wedding. None the less, I'm the maid of honor! I know the basic responsibilities of the MOH, but does anyone know of any sites or can tell me a list of the duties/responsibilities of the MOH? Thanks!

[Erika]

Go to somewhere like theknot.com and they should give you a good description of the duties.

Enjoy it. I was matron of honour for my best friend in June. It was fun and more relaxing than I would have thought. I was just there for the bride, keeping her calm and helping her with all her side of the wedding arrangements.

[Jo]

I don't have a clue since the one time I was supposed to be I had to back out because of extenuating circumstances. Luckily the bride understood and we are still close...actually that person was Polly.

Also when I got married, I didn't require my bridesmaids to do as much of the traditional stuff so I didn't learn anything there either.

Good luck! Sorry I can't help more.

[Beka]

Same here- my official maid of honour did very little (in fact she sodded off to Paris for "me" time shortly before the wedding :rolleyes ) and she spent the 4 months leading up to my wedding going back and forth to her partners house over 200 mile away every weekend and wouldn't come to dress fittings because my one bridesmaid was pg and she didn't like pg people so my bestmans ex-wife (who was then his fiance- ohhh how things change) stepped in and helped alot... nearly 7 years on the MoH likes to tell everyone i shoved her aside for that person :rolleyes

Like Jo I didn't really need many of the traditional bits, I wanted someone to share my hotel room with the night before the wedding, someone to help me shop for shoes, make up and make sure the other bridesmaids were co-ordinated, she took my bouquet of flowers to my grandparents gravestone for me (and had her husband photograph her doing it so i could see) as I left for honeymoon and i really wanted my gran to get my flowers, on the day she helped with my hair and make up (was a beautician) stitched the crotch on my ushers trousers when the zipper bust :rofl and made sure DD1 (then 4.5) was in the car, kept an eye on etc etc before i arrived. Joey really did rock and it makes me really sad I don't see her anymore as she ran out on DH's bestmate with a much younger man- very sad.

The knot or confetti are pretty good wedding sites for wedding ettiquette but coming from a large family and having been in a bucket load of weddings myself I'd have to say just talk to the bride and ask what she expects as everyone has a different view of the role.

[babywearing]

Thanks for the advice. I can tell that my friend that is getting married will be holding me responsible for a LOT of things. She gave me a list of things that she wants me to help her with and for some of them..I was thinking to myself "Isn't SHE suppose to be doing this? Or her and her fiance?" Oh well...I'm glad to help so I won't complain, and it's over a year of planning, so it should be good. Thanks for your guys' advice!

[kcmomma]

I was the matron of honor for my sister and my sister in law as well as a bridesmaid for a college friend (who's mother had passed and the MOH and other bridesmaids all lived out of town and hours away so I did a LOT of things with her). Basically I was an open ear and helper....I did anything that they asked me to do and helped out whereever I could. College friend I did about90% of the favors myself because it was crunch time and I was home from work on a snow day and ended up putting the decal on the glass Christmas ornament. I went with her to buy them, and helped make the inside. I think the fact that she's given you a list, is a great start.....THe other thing I did was help plan or plan the shower. (My mom and MIL helped plan too...as well as the bridesmaids from the other)