View Full Version : What one thing would you change about your partner?
Even if it's only something teeeeny and small- what one thing would you change about them?
Or if you only have an Ex, what one thing might haven helped in the relationship if they'd have sucessfully changed it?
Tobye
06-25-2008, 06:08 AM
Just one thing?:giggle
Well, my husband is completely not handy. If anything breaks, goes bad, leaks, etc. around the house or with the car, he is completely and utterly clueless as to how to fix it. He can't hang curtain rods, fix a leaky toilet, paint, plant a garden, and I could go on and on and on. My dad was very handy and I guess I just assumed that all men were that way. It kind of drives me batty at times, because usually he won't even try to fix something. Even I will TRY to fix it! However, if you need to know anything about firearms, he's right there with that knowledge. He could take a gun apart and put it back together blindfolded. A handy skill for around the house, no?
ohhh Tobye- we married the same man :rofl not called David is he? :giggle
Hmm... I posed the question and now I am thinking of what one thing I would most solve with David.
Ok- actually I wish occasionally the man would get more stressed... seriously at times he is SO laid back he'd be horizontal given half a chance, which- with 4 kids- leaves ALOT of panicking to me as someone has to do it! And there's usually alot that is pushing us to the edge and he's merrily teetering through life happy and smiling... now the annoying thing is whilst he is like this he is usually dealing with it... it's not even that i can blame his laid back nature on the fact it leaves it all to me to deal because he doesn't but UGH sometimes I wish it was him worrying about the small things and me doing the "it'll all work out..." routine LOL
Other than that I'll keep him as he is ;)
kathy_o
06-25-2008, 06:55 AM
The only thing I would like to change for my husband is to give him back his health. I would change the fact that he broke his back 17 years ago:(
Other than that ...I love him just the way he is...I wouldn't change a thing:)
Kristen
06-25-2008, 07:31 AM
Beka, my husband is the opposite...he's way more stressy about things than I am generally. :giggle
I think the the area that he could most grow in is in how much mercy and grace he shows to other people. His natural tendency is to think the worst of people, sometimes even when the worst is something completely atypical of a particular person. He has gotten better with this recently...learning to be more humble about himself and more understanding of other people's faults, but I still think it is probably his biggest failing. We've talked about it, and he agrees that it's a problem, which is good. And I think that as he continues his walk with God, this will become less and less of an issue.
The only thing I would like to change for my husband is to give him back his health. I would change the fact that he broke his back 17 years ago:(
Other than that ...I love him just the way he is...I wouldn't change a thing:)
That's got to be tough Kathy- did he regain much mobility after the accident? I know you've mentioned before you are the working partner in your household.
This thread is actually a nice one reading through- all very small trivial things but overwhelmingly the fact we're quite happy with the one we chose ;) I think that's pretty special these days.
gr8mommy
06-25-2008, 07:42 AM
It sounds very shallow, but I'd like to change his weight. He is clinically obese and I am very concerned that it is affecting his health. I do my best to encourage him and fill the house with healthy foods (without being a nag).
He's got a bad temper that I would get rid of.
Desirae
06-25-2008, 04:39 PM
I'd like him to be more financially responsible. I think we'd be a lot better off if he had better discipline with spending. (not to say I'm guilt free;))
Shana
06-25-2008, 06:00 PM
Mmmmm, Brian has an obsessive need to "teach" people things. He truly is very, very smart and he knows so much about nearly everything. Hence, his desire to become a teacher. So, he always feels the need to correct others when they are wrong. However, I find this quality to be fairly condescending and arrogant ;)
My exhusband. I could write a book about the things that I wish he would have changed BUT the #1 quality would have been his complete and utter lack of communication skills :rolleyes
I'd like him to be more laid-back. Sometimes it seems like everything bothers him, including things that are truly not any big deal, and it drives me crazy. So I would like him to be a little more easygoing and not be so quick to get upset about things.