Is your DH/SO like your father? (or your DW/SO like your mother ;))

[Lori]

Is your husband like your father? Or are they very different?

I was thinking of this last night because my dad left a message on my answering machine, and he always sounds grumpy when he leaves messages, and Sean does, too. :giggle The two of them are actually a lot alike. They're both tall, both have sort of the same demeanor around people, both have a similar sense of humor, both don't get angry often, and other things.

At first I was thinking that was kind of disturbing and icky, but then I thought that it made sense. I love my dad. He's a great guy, and he was a wonderful father and husband. So it makes sense that I'd find somebody who was similar to him in different ways.

[Lisa]

HA other than both of them are extremely smart in different ways they are close to being polar opposites. They get along great though.

[Mary]

Is your husband like your father?

NO.

And it's a good thing, because if he was, he'd be dead by now. :flirt:

(My mother is a saint. :meditate: I....not so much.)

[Jbird]

They have some things in common, but for the most part, I'd say they're pretty darn different - different hobbies, totally different occupations, different body types (although they are both tall), different interests, etc.

[Mally's Mom]

My DH and my mom are alot alike. They are both patient, obsessive compulsive, and perfectionist. But, my DH is also alot like my dad VERY competitive, and very into sports,hunting, and fishing. In other words my parents would have a hard time choosing if DH and I ever split!LOL

I am ALOT like my dad as I have ZERO patience and am very competitive. I am NOTHING like DH's mom she is just out there in her own world! DH's dad is dead but DH is alot like his dad was obsessive compulsive, big time hunter, and competitive.

[SabrinaJL]

Not even a little bit. My father never held down a job and was an abusive alcoholic and drug-addict. He was definitely not a very involved parent.

DH is hard-working and a wonderful husband and father.

[Christine]

Thank God no! The only thing they have in common is their height. ;)

[Beka]

LOL Worryingly so yes in many ways.

David is a very actively involved father, so was (is) my dad- my dad still fetches the kids from school for me if needed, only difference is my dad occasionally prioritised work over family but David won't do that.

They are both quite laid back, the only thing that makes either of them mad/angry is someone upsetting their family- they are both fiercely protective.

They both led very similar teens :giggle - right down to my dad having long hair at David's age.

They both work in engineering, they both grew up on the same neighbourhood estate.

I'm the one person who can annoy both of them to distraction.

David and my dad are quite alike although I can't say I consciously chose him for any of those qualities, what might be though is the fact my dad is more of a father than a FIL to David having met him so young and David never having had a positive male role model before my dad. It really is a nice relationship they have, in fact i could see it would continue even if David and I split up.

I don't think there's anything icky or weird about it- my dad is a great, honest to the bone, friendly, trusting, hard-working, family orientated, loving man & faithful husband and I'd have been stupid not to look for those qualities in my own husband.

[stormy]

I think that in a lot of ways my DH reminds me of my father. DH argues the same way my dad did. I sometimes feel like I'm arguing with my dad, they say the same things, get angry about the same things.

DH also has the same, hmmm not sure what to call it, maybe family values, that my dad had. DH's family is very much patriarchal, whereas my family was more all-equal. I don't mean that his dad makes all the decisions, his parents are equals in that respect, but his mom always cooks/cleans/grocery shops/does more women's work. His dad wouldn't do those things. But my mom and dad shared that stuff and DH is more like that which I'm thankful for.

There are other ways in which they remind me of each other but I can't really put it into words. There are also ways in which DH is so opposite of my dad and I'm glad of it. My dad was terrible with money and could get very bitter about it. DH is very good with money and doesn't let it become a big deal.

My dad was a wonderful man and a wonderful father so I'm glad I married someone with some of the same qualities.

[kcmomma]

not at all....other than they both tend to hold their emotions in...but I think that's more a male thing than a DH/Daddy thing

[Christi]

Yes, they are alike, sometimes scarily so! They get along wonderfully. And I love my daddy dearly, so I'm not complaining!

[Shana]

They are so much alike it's frightening. Physically, they are both tall, have dark hair (or, my dad did back in the day LOL), crystal clear blue eyes.

Personality wise... they are both extremely kind, humble, thoughtful, generous, loving, insightful, extremely intelligent. On the negative side, they are both very sensitive (can be a good quality), and they both over-react at times:rolleyes