Dealing with this teenager at work

[Jenny]

*sigh* :sigh I don't know where to start. I am dealing with a recently graduated from highschool 18yr old (or 17?). She is the granddaughter of an old big-gun at the company from years ago and feels that everyone owes her something for showing her presence.

She is pissed off that she didn't get a chance to apply for the position that I got and is taking it out on ME. She flat out ignores me at work, rolls her eyes, whispers with the other girls in her group and it sucks!! Eventhough the manages have explained to her that outcome would have been the same (hiring me) if they had reposted that position and waited ANOTHER two -three weeks for the application process to complete. This way they had the right candidate and since I didnt get the initial position, they slid me into the support rep position.

I have been out of HS for 12 yrs and can't remember how to deal with this. My mgr told me to just ignore it and let it blow over, but this is seriously CONSUMING me. I cannot sleep at night, I think about this all the time.

I just don't get it. Why ignore ME and get mad at ME for this.

I did some rooting around and found out that she is judging me for going to work full-time. She says that its so unfair to my kids and they need their mom instead of some daycare. She is so mad about this choice that managers made, so she is trying to find ways to cut ME down.

Then she is went on this 'education vs. experience' kick and said that people with their degrees should get priority over people with experience (or the right fit for the position).

Its not like I am becoming a manager of ANY type. I am a freaking support clerk to account managers!!!!!!!! :thumbsdown

this situation with 'her' is making me resent my work now. I hate it

[Beka]

first off she is talking complete and utter balls about your kids being better with you at home than daycare- studies have shown kids thrive with a happy mom reguardless of situation, if mom is happiest working and using daycare kids are happier than if she were at home SAHMing resentfully... plus your kids are school agers now, it's not like you are leaving 3 toddlers to fullfill career ambitions (and even if you were who the hell is she to judge?) I can confidently say she is just playing that card in hope other people will think how wrong it is too and quite frankly adults won't- they have lived enough of their lives to know you have to do what suits you in life, your kids aren't damaged in anyway by a few hours daycare- think about it, alot of your collegues must have kids or working wives or women without kids who someday plan to be working moms and she's probably putting all of those people off side with her by spouting such crap.

I would say just ignore her but i know that can be pretty difficult, the important thing is just keep on keeping on at your job and she'll have no holes to be able to pick- also look at it this way, i wouldn't mind betting quite a few people think she has no right to be there as she's gotten her job off the back of who she is, not what she can do- not many people like working along side people like that especially not when they know people who have had to struggle to get where they are.

[Kami]

I think Beka pretty much said what I was going too! I hate having to deal with people like that!

[Kristi]

First of all she would not know what it is like for your kids. She doesn't have any herself. And I think like Beka said as long as the mother is happy then it is better for the kids whether she be happy working or at home. She is acting like a spoiled immature brat. Like pouting about it and being rude to you is going to help her get the postion that she wanted. I agree with your boss about ignoring it and letting it blow over. Don't let it ruin your new position for you. Just remember you deserve it and have had to work to get there not gotten the job because a family member was in a high ranking positon in the company. :hugs

[Lori]

She sounds like a little brat, honestly, and I'm sorry she's saying such awful things. I'd imagine that she'll get over being so angry soon and find something else to be angry about. I can imagine how annoying and awful it is, but it really doesn't seem like somebody can keep up that kind of behavior for long.

[Erika]

:squeeze Jenny. She is just a spoiled ungrateful little brat who is shooting her mouth off. TUrn your nose up and ignore her after giving her some seriously withering looks LOL

I just don't have time for that kind of snotty attitude but have also realised that karma is a bitch and will more than likely come back to bite little miss sour grapes on the ass. Probably when she realises that no one is promoting her because of her snotty attitude and the fact that she (stupidly) bad mouthing other workers and acting like a know-it-all when it comes to parents! (how many mothers are senior to her at the workplace?)

[Desirae]

She may have an education but it sounds like she REALLY needs to grow up! :squeeze I hope she decides to chill out soon and that this crap is over for you soon.

[Brooke]

Ugh, what an awful situation. I'm sure you totally want to tell off the little snot, I know I would. :giggle

:squeeze It's hard to know what to do in this situation considering her family, but I like Beka's thoughts. Just do your job as best you can and that will prove that you were meant for the job.

[Jenny]

Hey :)

Thanks for the replies :)

So this morning, it was even worse. I have a personality that needs issues resolved, like five minutes ago, and will talk to the person involved in a situation like this.

I basically grabbed her, went into an empty office and said "WTF?!!!!" We hashed it out and she told me some AWFULL things that someone (same someone who told me about things she said :rolleyes) said that I said about her. I looked at her and said "okay, its been 12yrs since I was in highschool and I can't play these things anymore". Anyway, we got it all out in the open, I told her what I had actually said, she said that she would NEVER EVER judge me and my situation (her mom was a young mom too).

Anyhooo... its all good now;) I just wish this "pot-stirrer" would stop trying to cause shit! She saw us in the office, and then grabbed me right away and said "tell me what you talked about" and I said that I wouldn't.

management knows about all this, btw. They are getting the new management team completed this week and changes will start happening pretty quickly

[Kristi]

Ugh! I hate that. You think that stuff is susposed to stop when you leave Highschool. I am glad that the two of you got it all worked out and i hope the gossiper keeps her mouth shut from now on.

[Desirae]

I'm glad to hear that you two talked, and at least you now know to stay away form the other chick. Ugh, get a life people! I hope things are better from now on.