View Full Version : Has or will your career dictate your family planning?
Does or has your career, or schooling, dictate your family planning or intended family size?
Is this something you are comfortable with or something you have felt is necessary reguardless of maternal urge?
As academics, we scheduled our pregnancies to fit the academic calendar. We wanted to have babies in the early summer. Olivia came in May, and Elliot in July. So both were close to target date, and I had some time to recover from m C-sections before school started again.
But with both of us teachers, especially living here in Chicago, we limited to two children because the cost of living is so high. And we want to travel with them to Europe and Asia and Australia and...
Sean and I actually ended up having an enormous fight about this last night. He said something along the lines of thinking I should do something this summer to "further my career," which got me really upset, because I felt like he was implying that 1) being home watching Thomas and taking care of things in the house wasn't actually doing anything and 2) I needed to further my career, when I have no interest in doing so right now. But, that's for another thread. ;)
Anyway, my career is fully on hold right now, and it's largely because I know we want more kids, and that we plan on having them pretty close together, and that because of our relative market value, I'll be the one who's home. So while I'm teaching part-time, I'm not actively trying to find a full-time job or looking into a career.
Once we're settled and once we don't have any little kids, then I'll focus more on my career.
only a little. I wanted to try for #3 a long time before now. Even before we got pregnant with loss #3 early last year. However Dh was in school and only working part time. It really wasn't the best time for us to be ttc then.