Banging my head into the wall, Moriah is marrying Mike.

[Desirae]

Ugh ugh ugh!!!!! For those who don't know the history, I'll recap as quickly as possible... Moriah (my sister now 21) and Mike met about 7 years ago. They seemed great together and he seemed really nice. Well, not so much. Everything was lies. He started cheating on her within a month or so and was spewing lies from the very first day they met. They were toxic for each other. They're both manipulate each other and situations for theirselves. Mike started doing drugs at some point in this which only made thigs worse. He's cheated on her, hit her, kicked her out on the street in the middle of the night, destroyed her car, stole from her, coerced her into stealing ( not taking ANY blame off of her but he was part of it), filed false police reports against her, tried to have her arrested, threatened to have her family killed, etc etc etc... get the picture??? Well, due to all of this Moriah moved down here to FL this past spring... NOW, they're in love and eloping. :wail We're all evil and against her cause we are FREAKED about all of this. We should forgive him and stop living in the past...Ummmm, he's never said anything to us about feeling sorry for anything or about how he's changed his life. Yes, he's in the Army now... OOOOh wonderful! I'm sorry but that tells me nothing other than that her can now have more ways to get away from Mo and cheat or on and to issolate her from friends and family as is already beginning again. :cry

[Lori]

:squeeze That just stinks. I hope, for your sister's sake, that he actually has changed, but I can completely understand how worried you and your family are.

[Brooke]

Oh Des, I am so sorry :( :( :squeeze I hope she has a change of heart. :(

[Desirae]

Thanks girls.

Lori, I really really hope he's changed but from what we've seen it doesn't looks that way. :(

Brooke, thanks. I hate this so much! SHe's totally changed again because of it.

[Kristi]

:tears Oh no. :( I am so sorry Des. I know how much you hoped that she would get away from him. :hug

[Jurgita]

Oh no!! I am so sorry :( When are they getting married? I really hope he has changed.

[Desirae]

THanks girls. I just reread that and saw how babbly it is. I'm sorry for that. :( This whole situatuion is just awful.

Jurgita, she doesn't want her family to know. :( Her friends have said "2 weeks" and "in MArch". When we ask her about that she says they have no plans. We know she's lying but UGH!

[Beka]

don't forgive him but DO make it plain to her she is your sister and you love her and you're still there for her, if you don't when things turn bad she'll feel like an idiot and have no one to turn to even though you'd all take her back with open arms, if you stay friends with her and keep letting her know you are still her sister all the same when it does turn bad she'll turn to you as a friend and sister she can come back to when she needs it

I say this as my own sister was party of a very violent relationship- we had no idea it was violent but i did know my sister was acting weird not showing to things, constantly upsetting my parents with her actions so in the end my parents decided enough was enough- it was up to her to make contact if she chose to be with a man they hated but i would not give up, i knew something was wrong and i knew he wasn't right for her- in time she did breakdown and tell me what was going on and the same day her bestfriend and i moved her out of there and she eventually met a lovely wonderful man who she's marrying in florida next summer... if i had turned my back like my parents did my sister would probably be dead now or living in a god damn awful situation as she'd have felt she had no one to turn to when she did decide it was time to make a break- she tells me still having me calling etc reassured her she was still herself and still the same person from when her life was happy before him and it made her want that back

[Amy J]

that stinks!! I hope she wakes up and gets the picture. That's a very big commitment!

[Desirae]

Beak thank you for that. I'll admit it is very hard to think about and therefore kinda hard to "deal" with her but I don't want to lose her.... How do I keep a relationship with her and yet keep HIM out of our lives??? I don't trust him. He's been dangerous in the past and I don't want him near my kids or to even see pics of my kids! *sigh*

Amy, thank you.

It's really scary too. She's trying to become what she thinks he is wanting her to be (by comparing herself to the girls he's cheated with and the porno chicks he watches) and THAT terrifies me. She is an amazing person and she needs to not lose herself in this though I'm afraid it's too late.

[Stacy]

:squeeze I can't imagine what you are going through

[SweetmamaB]

:squeeze Aww Des, I'm sorry to hear about your sis marrying that jerk. I agree with Beka! I know it will be hard, but your sister will need you when everything falls apart. I'll be keeping you all in my thougths!