View Full Version : Did You TTC for a Specific Gender?
Polly
03-10-2008, 01:49 PM
Or let nature take it's course?
My parents used the Shettles method to conceive my brother, so I guess it works.
It just sounds like a lot more work to conceive a boy than a girl.
Polly
Danielle
03-10-2008, 01:58 PM
I personally think it's all hooey! I didn't really TTC at all so I can't answer that question LOL.
boosmama
03-10-2008, 02:09 PM
yea i agree, i think you get what you get no matter what position you try it in lol.
freebiemom
03-10-2008, 02:41 PM
Nope, didn't try for anything other than a baby! :)
off-kilter
03-10-2008, 02:43 PM
I've seen those that try for a specific gender tend to get it "right" about half the time no matter the method used--pure chance included.
Was just trying to get knocked up here!
I clearly tried for only girls.LOL
I personally think it's all hooey! I didn't really TTC at all so I can't answer that question LOL.
Ditto!
If you take into account all the recommendations those methods give for conceiving a boy, then Madalyn should've been a boy. LOL Quite by accident we ended up doing basically everything "they" say will yield a boy, and we got Mad, instead. I am pretty sure the circumstances were very similar when Eliza was conceived and, yet, it got us another girl.
We actually only tried to conceive one time and we weren't trying for anything in particular. I just wanted it to work, period. Plus I 'knew' we'd have a girl first so I wasn't too fussed about trying to make it happen.
Tamika
03-10-2008, 10:11 PM
We didn't try for a specific one with any of them - with Kaylyn my whole goal was to actually stay pregnant after having lost our first, BUT - I do know when we 'played' that month - a total of one whole time as it was an insanely busy month and it was DEFINATELY 5 days before I O'd, so it worked for her.
Kieran - I think it worked for him too without trying as we figured out when we'd 'played' and I knew when I'd O'd, it was within a day or two.
Treyce - who knows, I didn't know I was pg til I was about 11 weeks along.
Jejune
03-10-2008, 10:35 PM
Shettles doesn't work, at least according to anything independent of Shettles himself! His 70% accuracy rate was based on self selecting, self reported results.
We did want a girl the third time round, and since we didn't think we'd be upset to have a boy, we figured it wouldn't hurt to try Shettles, or any old wives' tales, for that matter. We set a date when we were going to start trying, way off in the future, and we started planning what we'd do. Then we found out I was already pregnant. I've since run into three other families who decided they were going to try for a girl but then found out they were already pregnant. We all had girls. I'm now convinced that this is the way to have a girl. Plan to use Shettles and then get knocked up without meaning to. 100% success rate. ;)
I agree with Denise- annecdotally these methods seem to have a 50-50 sucess rate which nature has itself :lmao
With Chase we never tried (being busy with high school and all) With Jude we didn't start out trying for either even before we knew we had issues... when we learned we had issues it meant what sex we conceived really became entirely irrelevant. It was damned annoying when we learned he was a boy and everyone kept saying how perfect that was because they just didn't get, after all he took ANY baby would have been just perfect.
With Dyl we weren't trying and we continued our alternating pattern... again, annoying as hell everyone who thought it was some intentional grand plan of ours.
With Loks we, again, were back to any healthy baby will be perfect and then we got the entirely brady-girl,boy,girl,boy pattern completed and UGH the "ohhh how wonderfuls" drove me insane, to the point I actually almost wished he'd have been a girl to stop it all :rofl
So no, no methods here- I do know though my body does react differently to different gender pregnancies though- I have a huuuuge pigmentation that has appeared between my eyebrows only with both my male pregnancies, and not with the female ones, I also only felt pregnant with the girls- aside from the metallic taste which i only got with the boys, and also my cravings were all meat & salt based with the boys, sugar with the girls... very odd as those things apart all 4 were dramatically different pregnancies.
Christine
03-11-2008, 04:14 AM
Apparently getting knocked up without meaning to is overall a good method of conceiving a girl. :rofl
I never tried for a specific gender. I really don't believe it would have mattered though. I had what I was meant to have, when I was meant to have them. ;)
Tamika
03-11-2008, 08:04 AM
Apparently getting knocked up without meaning to is overall a good method of conceiving a girl. :rofl
not here, it got me a boy! LOL
Jejune
03-11-2008, 08:44 AM
Yes, my first surprise pregnancy was a boy! LOL I got one of each, surprise wise.
Hmmm- Christine, my 2 surprise arrivals were both female so I'm with you on that LOL
saramarie11
03-11-2008, 01:40 PM
We both wanted our first to be a boy but we didn't try anything to get one.
Does anyone believe that mothers have an intuition about what they are going to have once they find out they are pregnant? I just knew that we were going to have a boy. My dh and I even had a bet on it. The winner got to pick the middle name with no argument from the other. I won!!! (The middle name is John, which is dh's middle name. I knew it would mean a lot to him).
Or what about the old wives tales that will predict what you are having ie, a lot of morning sickness means you are having a girl?
freebiemom
03-11-2008, 02:01 PM
With Loks we, again, were back to any healthy baby will be perfect and then we got the entirely brady-girl,boy,girl,boy pattern completed and UGH the "ohhh how wonderfuls" drove me insane, to the point I actually almost wished he'd have been a girl to stop it all :rofl
I'm so with you here! Our first was a boy so the 2nd time everyone kept saying how they knew we were hoping for a girl. Uh, no, we just wanted a healthy baby who ended up being a girl. Then the 3rd time (boy) we were already being asked if we'd have a 4th to even things out! So the 4th time everyone said they knew were were hoping for a girl again to even things out. Lucky for them all we had a girl. :rolleyes
And yes, they all thought our big plan was to do it this way but nope, sorry, wasn't our intention. In fact, we were pretty much thinking after our 3rd that we were through but divine intervention decided otherwise. Of course now everyone assumes (like they did after #2) that we're done because we have the "perfect" family as we have two boys and two girls. Hate all the assumptions! We've joked about having a 5th just to annoy everyone by having more of one gender than the other! :nannybooboo
Jejune
03-11-2008, 03:32 PM
Heh. We had always planned on four (though we're now thinking of stopping at three). When we had two boys, people kept asking us if we were going to keep trying for a girl. Well, yes, we were, but we'd have been happy with another boy, too. I mean, it's not like you can control that, save through adoption, so you'd better be ready to be happy with whatever you get. A lot of folks kept telling us that we "needed" a girl. Then we had a girl and now everyone and his uncle assumes we're done because we got our girl. If we are done, that's not why.
We both wanted our first to be a boy but we didn't try anything to get one.
Does anyone believe that mothers have an intuition about what they are going to have once they find out they are pregnant? I just knew that we were going to have a boy. My dh and I even had a bet on it. The winner got to pick the middle name with no argument from the other. I won!!! (The middle name is John, which is dh's middle name. I knew it would mean a lot to him).
Or what about the old wives tales that will predict what you are having ie, a lot of morning sickness means you are having a girl?
Well my intuition sucked entirely LOL I was soooooo convinced my eldest would be a boy i only bought blue, even down to the stroller! I only thought of a girls name because my dad encouraged us to (She was going to be Cameron James) We didn't get to find out at the scan and when she was a girl it was a massive shock (and a big flurry to buy neutral/girl clothes!) My second I was so certain he'd be another girl I actually replied with "No, I have girls" when the sonographer said boy :lmao my third I convinced myself she'd be a second boy as 2 so close together needed to be brothers and well... she's dancing around the lounge dressed as a fairy right now LOL and my 4th I was adamant he'd be a girl because 2 of each seemed too picture book... he's a boy!
Old wives tales predicted wrong on 3 of my 4, my 2 most similar pregnancies were my 2nd and 3rd which were one of each!