Your extended family and your pregnancy?

[Beka]

Did you want to involve your extended family when you were pregnant?

Were they as interested as you hoped or did you hope they'd leave you to enjoy it intimately as a couple and found their interest intrusive?

Did this have an effect (or will it have and effect) on any subsequent pregnancies?

[Jo]

Other than telling them, I didn't want people all that involved. Dave's Dad did help tremendously when I had a partial previa with Mira. He would pick Rai up at school and bring her home when Dave was due home from work.

But otherwise, I just don't get all girly and mushy about stuff so I don't really want to talk about it with the family. Dave's Aunts are far away and I would rather talk politics than pregnancy with my family.

I have always been this way and it doesn't really matter about future pregnancies as they won't be happening!:woot

[kcmomma]

By extended family, I guess you mean sisters, brothers and parents.... at least that's the way I'm answering this.

My sister found out she was pregnant shortly after we announced our pregnancy. My niece Jordyn is 12 weeks younger than Madison. So we got to share alot of things together. Family lunches and holidays discussed babies quite a bit. The discussions and questions on our health and news of the babies included aunts and cousins too, on my side of the family at least.

I was glad that they were interested. It shows how much they care about us and our children. One of my aunts and all 4 of her kids visited me in the hospital too. Dh wasn't interested in the pregnancy and really wasn't even sure he really wanted a baby either...so he didn't ask many questions or really show much interest at all. His mother did ask a few questions, but didn't want to pry too much or upset DH by bringing up the topic too much.

My mom was my labor coach with a co-worker friend being my second one...Dh refused to be in the delivery room and was on his way from work to the hospital after the call was made for the emergency c-section...things happened a little bit faster than we anticipated. The plan was for him to be outside the room and to come in after the baby was born.

Since there aren't going to be any more babies, unless there's divine intervention...everyone's reactions were just what they were

[freebiemom]

Family would ask how I was doing and that's about it. Which sounds sad but is fine because that's how I wanted it as I was very selfish with my pregnancies - just as I am now with my kids! :giggle The main ones I wanted to share my pregnancies with was DH and our children.

When each of ours was born, I wanted only DH at the hospital so we could have some bonding time with the new baby before everyone else showed up and they were great about respecting that as well.

[Jbird]

Well, one of my sisters was the first call I made - I really wish my sisters would've been more involved, but they all live far away, so that's hard. My oldest sister did come visit after Delaney was born, though.
My grandmother and mom were quite involved, came to my showers, etc. DH's aunts came to the shower, too.
My MIL and FIL were not involved much at all, until I was in labor, then they thought they needed to be in the hospital room, with their 2-year-old grandson. I'm drugged up. Can you say AWKWARD!