View Full Version : When is the last time?
Danielle
02-10-2008, 09:10 AM
You and dh had...
a date night?
a trip away (alone)?
some time alone at home?
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship?
Danielle
02-10-2008, 09:14 AM
I was just thinking that it's been FOREVER since dh and I went out! Honestly, it's been close to 6 months since we've been to dinner or a movie or anything. We've managed to go shopping or run a few errands when Alex is here but otherwise, nada. The last trip we went on alone was last summer when we rented a cabin for 2 nights. The last time we were "home alone" was Wednesday afternoon but dh had a deadline for work and was locked away.
Our relationship is good but I know it could be WAY better if we took more time for "us". It's hard though since we have NO family close by and we live in a new city so no close friends either. We're going to try to get out for dinner when Alex is here next but as fo the trip, it will be awhile. :sigh
Brooke
02-10-2008, 09:27 AM
a date night?
Usually we have these pretty often but it's been awhile. At least a few months
a trip away (alone)?
When Xander was conceived. :rofl
some time alone at home?
We get this a lot, actually. We're fortunate to have a lot of family nearby and they love having the kids over. We just don't take advantage of being home alone since we sit on our computers and ignore each other most of those nights. LOL
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship?
It really does when we're out and enjoying ourselves.
You and dh had...
a date night? errrrm probably my 26th birthday (and i'm 29 in a few weeks time) We've not been out since Loki was born at least so 14+ months there, we didn't really go out when i was pg with him so 2 years near on
a trip away (alone)? It was sil2's wedding April 2006- the kids were part of the wedding but my parents took them home around 11pm and then we stayed at the hotel, however i'd found out i was pg with loki a few days before and spent the whole time being violently sick. Before that our last trip away had been our honeymoon in 2002 but my grandad died during it so my sister was with us the first 2.5 days and my parents and Chase the final 3 days so we had roughly a day and a half there but we were waiting on the phonecall to say grandad had passed
some time alone at home? Well we get alternate saturdays with no Loki, but other than that probably shortly before Loki was born, my mom made a big effort to give us a break before he arrived and to prepare Jude and Dyl
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship? To be honest we've never really been a couple without kids, we got together as a couple once we discovered we were already pregnant with Chase and so we've never had a chance to be a couple in our own right or have any selfish adult time so being with the kids nearly 24-7 doesn't have an adverse effect because we don't know what we're missing i guess.
Jejune
02-10-2008, 10:07 AM
a date night?
I think it was November, unless we count Daniel's work Christmas party in December.
a trip away (alone)?
Never, unless you count when we were dating. We've never had a trip away alone as a married couple.
some time alone at home?
We spend the evenings together when the kids are in bed, but that's about it.
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship?
Yes, but they are hard to come by. I'd really like a trip with Daniel.
We have one every Friday and we either go out to eat or cook something special :)
I don't think it helps our relationship as we prefer to stay in anyway but the lay in is nice.
Jbird
02-10-2008, 10:57 AM
Date Night? Um, is it bad that I can't remember? Well, twice in the last year we've been able to go to a movie, and one of those times dinner, too. The last was in September. We're due.
A trip away, alone? We went to Eureka Springs last June for 3 days, but with friends. Last trip we took away alone was March 2006. Also to Eureka Springs.
Time alone together at home? Taryn goes to friends' houses or her mom's, but Delaney is pretty much always home. So other than alone as in after the kids go to bed, I'm not sure this has happened since Delaney was born.
Do they help our relationship? Well, yes, to a certain extent. I think I'd like the alone time, a little romance, more than he cares about it. As long as he gets some now and then, he's good. :) But we like having the girls around.
Kristi
02-10-2008, 01:28 PM
a date night? Hmm I guess it was at the beginning of November when his dad was visting and he watched the kids so that we could go out to dinner.
a trip away (alone)? A LONG Time ago. The June before Isabella was born. Yikes. We had a friend watch the boys and went away to bed and breakfast for a night for my birthday. That was when we still lived in Italy
some time alone at home? Hmm it has been awhile. I guess if you count when the boys are at school and Isabella is napping then we have a couple hrs three afternoons a week.
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship? Yes definetly.We need some couple time too. I just wish that we got more of it.
Shana
02-10-2008, 02:33 PM
a date night? Well, we went skiing today. It wasn't a date "night", but a date "day". Unfortunately Brian really hurt his knee and we're back way earlier than we would be typically :(
a trip away (alone)? We left 2 weeks ago for our honeymoon in Jamaica, and got back one week ago:wail
some time alone at home? We are alone right now. The kids are with Mike this weekend :)
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship? Time that Brian and I spend alone always grows our relationship. However, I find that the times that we are all together with the kids is helpful, as well, to build us as a family and bind us together even more strongly.
a date night? A very long time--probably about two years--but we do have lunch date (without Thomas) once a week.
a trip away (alone)? Like Brooke, when Thomas was conceived. :giggle And, even that was just to visit our families. But, we're planning on leaving Thomas with my inlaws for a couple of nights over the summer, and going to either Cape Cod or Martha's Vineyard.
some time alone at home? We sometimes have 15 or 20 minutes to ourselves on the days Thomas has his playdate, but that's about it.
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship? It's nice, but Thomas usually goes to bed early enough that we get a couple of hours alone together every night, anyway.
Kristen
02-10-2008, 06:39 PM
a date night Hmm...sometime before Christmas.
a trip away (alone)?That was last spring...our ten year anniversary trip which was almost a WEEK without the kids!
some time alone at home?Well, we usually get alone time at home each evening, as we put the kids in bed at a relatively early hour(they're all down by 8:30)
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship?
Goodness yes, especially the times when we get to go away overnight.
Kristi
02-11-2008, 05:46 AM
Before we went out the time I mentioned we had no alone time for over a yr and a half.
a date night? Saturday we did dinner at a nice Italian restaurant & went to the movies & saw Fools Gold.
a trip away (alone)? 2 years ago for my brothers graduation. We stayed the weekend & went white water rafting which was pretty cool.
some time alone at home?If we are at home we usually have the kids.
Do you find that times like these really help your relationship? of course!