How many serious romantic relationships have you had?

[Brooke]

How many serious romantic relationships have you had? How long did they last? If they are broken-up, why did you separate?

[Lori]

I had a high school boyfriend I dated for about six months, but it wasn't all that serious. I definitely didn't have any intentions or desires for him to be more than a high school boyfriend. I probably wanted to break up with him after dating for about two months, because he was much more serious about the relationship than I was, but I felt really bad about doing it, so it dragged on much longer than it should have.

And that was it. I had a few other guys I dated briefly, but nothing serious.

[MathSpeak]

Three... yikes...
First, there was c - I dated him from the time I was 18 - 20... that was my first real relationship... we traveled and generally got along REALLY well... but, he cheated... alas, had to drop him like a hot potato!

L - Aj's dad... we dated from the time I was 20-25 :( He was just abusive... period. After bringing a child into this world, I realized that it wasn't what I wanted for my life

C- not sure how serious I would call this because it only lasted 7 months, but it was an intense 7 months... LOL so I'll add it...

[Christine]

I've always been a monogamous sort of girl, but never anything serious or long term until Dave. Actually, my first "serious" boyfriend only lasted 5 months and that was my longest until Dave. I think the normal lifespan was about 2 months.

[Amber]

I dated my high school boyfriend for a year and a half. At the time, I would have called it a serious relationship. Looking back, it just seems silly & insignificant. We probably should have broken up after 6 months, but we dragged it out for awhile.

Other than that, my relationships only tended to last a couple months. Until my marriage, that is.

[giffy]

4.

#1: from age 17 to just before I turned 21. We just grew apart.

#2: from 21 to 22. Only a year, but intense and painful for most of it. We were better off apart.

#3: lasted 8 months. He was really just for fun, but we were monogamous.

#4: well, it's been 14 years so far...;)

[Jurgita]

I had two before John. First guy was from USA and we even were engaged. It was nice and everything was ok, but the distance was just too much. I mean I just couldn't date a guy I see once a year only. So I broke up, it was very very hard, and left us both with lots of hurt feelings :( And this lasted about couple years.
Another guy was also from USA, and it's almost the same story... the distance LOL This was lasted about 7 months. He was wonderful guy, but it just wasn't meant to be.
So I decided to stick to guys who are closer to me, so I got John LOL Yeah he is from Philippines, but he was living in Lithuania. I couldn't be happier with my decision :D

[Kristen]

Well, there was this guy named Steve that I met when I was nearly 18, and things got sort of serious with him, and, well, now I have his four kids and it's been 11 years. :giggle

He's been the only guy I've ever dated...I don't even have any non-serious relationships to tell about. :giggle

[Shana]

Serious ones, I have had 4.

Jeff -- The person I lost my virginity to, this was a 2 year relationship. UGH. I wish I had waited. Ummm it was from 15 to 17. We broke up because I didn't want to be with him any longer, I chose to be with the very 1st love of my life instead....

Isaac -- Yeah. He was at the time truly the love of my life. We dated for 2 years as well, from 17 to 19. I never would have broken up with him, and I would have married him in one half of a heartbeat BUT he decided he didn't want to be with me anymore :( That was a REALLY tough time in my life. I thought I'd never get over it. Then I met.....

Mike -- when I was almost 20. And he was very kind, faithful, generous. We were married for 18 years when we separated. Very sad. Lots of things led up to the separation, mostly my fault, partially his. Nothing is perfect, no one is perfect. Enough said.

Brian -- My soul mate. We have been together for 2 years now, and are engaged to be married next February :)

[wendygrace]

I don't know. Let's see. I was one of those people that had a series of "serious relationships".

My first would have been Jim. Looking back it was crazy but we were engaged. We had been friends for a year and then dated and got engaged. It was dumb and never would have worked out.

Then there was Chris. We were also engaged and this was also high school. However, he really was more serious then I ever was and when he went off to the Navy, I broke up with him.

Then there was John. I truly felt he was/could have been my soulmate. We also had been friends for awhile and we dated for about a year. Six months in hs and six months while I was away in college. We just couldn't make it work long distance and there were a lot of hurt feelings.

Then there was Richard. He was the one I lost my virginity with (both of us were virgins). We dated over a year after being friends for over a year. But he were both commitment phobic at the time and couple that with me being his first g-friend, it just wasn't going to work.

There was Jon (another one) but again a move broke us apart. Again a lot of hurt feelings. We did talk for, let's see, 5 plus years on the phone. And every New Year's we were on the phone together but we stopped talking about 9 months ago.

Then I married my very bestest friend from HS, Keith. We had been friends for over 10 years. He had had a "crush" on me for that long. Apparently the reality of being married to me was not what was in his 10 year long fantasy. We were married for several years but should have gotten an anullment right away. He called me shortly after ds was born (not his kid) and I haven't heard from him since. I still talk to his parents and call them mom and dad. I have been calling them that for over 16 years. Can't really call them anything else. LOL

I am now married to Mick. We have two children together. I hope this is the last cuz I don't think I ever wanna go back to dating. LOL We were friends for about 9 months, dated for about 6 months and got married about 5 1/2 yrs ago.

[Kristi]

Well really only one with Tim. But of course there was the high school relatiionship that I thought was serious at the time. His name was Josh We dated for about a yr until I met Tim the fall after I graduated when I moved out of my parents house into an apartment with one of my friends.

Josh and I worked together. He was a yr younger than me though. But I thought he was so hot and I had thing for Camaro's at the time LOL And he had just got one. :D

We broke up mostly because i met Tim and had more of a connection with him and because Josh was into getting high and drinking and more into hanging out with his friends than me. When I moved into our apartment in August he only came over once. You would think as a teenage boy who still lives with your mom when your girlfriend gets her own place you would want to hang out there all the time. Anyways, he had not called for awhile or come over. I had a crush on Tim's roommate (I had never met Tim) and I went to a party with my next door neighbors (who were on Tim's ship) at Tim's house. I found out the roommate had a girlfriend. Then Tim came over and started talking to me and we got along really well. We started hanging out alot after that and sleeping together. :blush I was still technically with Josh but had not heard from him for over a month when I Decided to call and break up with him because I realized I was falling for Tim. :lovealot.

Now about 6 yrs later. he we are married for 5 yrs and with there kids. :D

[Beka]

only david and that only really worked out to be more than friendship because we were having Chase :o - been with david since i was 17

[Corey]

Well, there are a few guys who probably would like to think they were in serious relationships with me but looking back they were stupid. Other than Eric, I would probably only count Chris - who I lost my virginity to. We only dated for a few months when he broke up with me but then he resurfaced almost a year later to tell me he loved me and wanted to marry me. Um, ok. :rolleyes He was pretty mad when I started dating Eric soon after that. Then about a year after that I found out I was pregnant and decided to marry Eric - leaving Chris crushed. He actually emailed me since we've lived in Georgia to see how I was. I replied telling him I was still married and now had 4 kids ... I haven't heard back from him since. LOL

So, Chris was my first, kinda and then Eric was my second. We've been together for 13+ years - since I was 16.

[Val]

Besides dh, nobody. I dated some guys, and some for awhile but it was never serious.

[Jenny]

I had a few that at the time I considered my true boyfriends forever LOL

I also had a few too many flings, but don't regret it, because otherwise I wouldn't be who I am.

so... I started dating Josh when I was 15yrs old and knew there was just so much emotion involved from day1. We fought so much and made up so much too *giggle*

We got pregnant with Tanner when I was 16yrs old and he was 17. We were 17 and 18 when Tanner was born and half way through our last year of highschool.

After highschool we went our seperate ways, but always remained pretty good friends.

I dated one guy, Jason, for about 6mo and was going to move to Edmonton to live with him (he was in the army) and Josh put an area restriction on me. I woke up one day to realize that Jason was really an alcoholic and had major issues. Being away from him really made me realize that when he would call drunk and be a totally different person than he was when he called me sober (rarity at that point). So I broke up with him, he was crushed, but married someone up there about a year after and had two little boys. I remained friends with his sister for about five years following Jay and I going our own ways.

Then there was Andrew....I don't even know where to go from here. He was a stoner, rocker, had no aspirations in life, just wanted to smoke up. What attracted me to him was the fact that he had a daughter the same age as Tanner. I became friends with his ex girlfriend too, but I knew all along that he just wasn't right for me. A major event happened which just made me realize that the choice I made at that point was always against what I believed and that I could never remain with him :( I am glad, becuase he is still renting the same crappy basement suite with no goals and aspirations in life.

Then I kind of hooked up with (not sexually) with an old friend from highschool, we admitted our true feelings that we always had for eachother, but could not be with eachother, because he was sleeping with my best friend and I was seeing his best friend for a few weeks. It would have been too awkward, we told eachother we would cut it off with our 'flavours' and get back in touch later. The feelings we admitted scared the crap out of the both of us and he ended up moving to Alberta and I stopped coming to our old town. we completely cut off any communications from eachother until we saw eachother at our 10yr reunion two years ago. It was awkward, because we definately felt something. However, I am now married to Josh and wouldn't want it any other way.

so that brings me back to Josh, where he was living with his girlfriend in another province and I called him up and said "this is stupid, we are basically best friends .... move back and lets try it again" Within a month he was back, but it took us about a year to finally decide to REALLY make it a go.

We moved in together, got pregnant with Emily, got married...the rest is history. We have been married for almost 9yrs now, but "together" (on and off) for about almost 15yrs

[Joni]

Just Dave. He was the first serious boyfriend I had, and he's the one I married. I dated a few guys before him but nother that ever lasted more than a few months.

[off-kilter]

I met Tate when I was almost 15 and he was just over 15. First guy I ever "dated" and we went out most of our sophomore year of high school. Broke up for the summer to "meet new people" or something like that. Had a little cry, declined my younger brother's offer to rough up Tate for dumping me, and then shrugged and figured it was natural at that age. Got back together shortly (without dating anyone else) after restarting school, got engaged our senior year, married our 2nd year of college (at the age of 19), and will celebrate our 14th anniversary in March this year.

NOT what I though my love life would be when I was picturing it as a pre-teen/teen! But it's seeming to work so far.

[BigDave]

3 counting Jo.

#1 Tanya. We dated early teens. Broke up because, I was 15 and she was 14.

#2 Beth. We dated for almost 3 years. We broke up because she moved away with her parents and I just could not stand to have another conversation that revolved around inane topics (i.e. stuffed animals). And plus she had way too much baggage.

#3 My funny little honey and that was all she wrote.

There was a lot of time between Beth and Jo, and I dated but nothing serious. No girls to bring home to Dad.

[Danielle]

I had 1 fairly serious but still pathetically adolescent relationship, 1 moderately serious college relationship and 1 very serious but horribly disfunctional and abusive adult relationship before B. He's been my one and only for over 9 years now though!

[Brooke]

I've dated 2 other guys seriously besides dh.

The first one, Matt, I met at work in high school. We dated on and off for 3-1/2 years. He was the first guy I truly loved. He was just awesome, gorgeous too. Though we were good together, we were both stupid and would not make it exclusive for long periods of time. By the time he realized that he wanted to be exclusive and possibly forever, I was involved with someone else. *sigh*

That someone else was serious boyfriend #2, also Matt. LOL We met at work in college and dated for 3 years. That relationship was awful. I don't know what the hell I was thinking, but it did help me grow up a bit. He was an on/off again drug user. Got me involved in some stuff I never thought I'd touch. Then after all that, just turned into a bunch of potheads. He couldn't hold a job, didn't care about anything and let me be the responsible one for most of the relationship. He was there for me emotionally, about some things, but for the most part, he was a loser and I can't believe I ever dated him. And not only did I date him, but I lived with him and took care of him. Oh well, live and learn, right?

Then there was Eric, my dh. Him and I met about a month after I broke up with Matt and seriously started dating a month after that. He was the total opposite of Matt and I fell in love. He was responsible, financially secure, not a pothead, took care of himself, treated me like a princess. I realized that was what I wanted in a relationship and though we've had some tough times, I wouldn't change it for anything. We met 6 years ago and have been married for 5-1/2.

[MommyBug77]

Quite a few actually. Most of the break ups were I was simply young & not ready. One of them was because he was going to Kosovo, though I did not know it at the time. He did not want to worry me.

[ColleenC]

Serious relationships?? Just the one I am in with Steve. Before that I had a couple of ummmm flings LOL But nothing serious. We have been together since I was 20. When we met he was with someone that he had been with on and off for over 4 years.

[Jejune]

Just the one with Daniel. It was pretty obvious it would be serious from day one, and while I didn't expect that my first real relationship would be my last, things just worked out this way. I'm very glad they did, but I never expected it!

[Desirae]

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Paul and I met when I was 14, we started "dating" when I was ... 15. Things were weird and messy (he is 6.5 years older;)) and I broke up with him after he got another girl pregnant and married her (Yes, I broke up with him... he thought we should continue ~please!) when I was 17. He started calling when I was 18 after he filed for a divorce.

Sean I started dating about 4 motnhs after Paul had started talking again. ;)