What would make you want another baby?

[Jejune]

This is aimed mostly at those who aren't planning another baby. Is it for financial reasons, health reasons, or do you just feel done? Would a change in circumstances make you want another baby, or do you feel like your family is complete no matter what?

[Danielle]

A free full time nanny. That`s about it.

[Sam]

A free full time nanny. That`s about it.

This and better mental health.

[Beka]

A guarantee my kidneys would hold out healthily through another one or 2 pregnancies, more space (not a big house but right now 2 bedrooms, 6 people is really starting to grind on everyones nerves!!!) and a career rather than a job for David.

I'm not sure if we're done yet but on the same hand i'm not certain we're not done either.

[Christi]

Better mental health for sure, and if we somehow came into lots of money! I will admit that there are some parts of it that I would do differently, but after a scare this month (yes, Mary, it was a SCARE!<---I cried on her on YIM one night about my fear!) I realized that I am NOT ready to face another pregnancy or have another child. Yes, I'd love to have a daughter, but I think I'll wait for my grandchildren now, thanks! LOL I have coworkers having them left and right, so I can spoil their babies!

[Jo]

For hell to freeze over???:rofl

[Beka]

For hell to freeze over???:rofl

Or as we say here "when satan skates to work" ;) :giggle

[Kristen]

Gosh, I don't know. I suppose if something happened to one of my kids, I might feel somewhat inclined to have another baby. But, I'd probably only go through with it if someone could fix my hyperemesis. When I was pregnant last time, I remember thinking that even if, God forbid, all my children died, I didn't think I could put myself through another hellish pregnancy. :( It is that miserable.

[Jejune]

I think for me, it would take better health, a calmer time for Liam, and more money. Then I'd feel comfortable thinking about whether I wanted another child. However, I'm not sure whether I want another baby or not...I just figure I'd be more comfortable considering it if I had the other bases covered.

[ColleenC]

Free childcare. Preferably a free/nanny housekeeper.

Childcare is just too expensive if you don't get the subsidy's here. It keeps a large amount of people in the 'working poor' category. Can't afford NOT to work, yet can't afford to pay for childcare. I honestly have no clue what we would do if I got pregnant. Paying $700 ++ a month for another 5 years scares me LOL

[Danielle]

That's just it Colleen. I currently pay $1200/month for day care for David (1/2 days as he is in school part-time) and before and after school care for Takara. Adding another $800-1000 to that is NOT in the cards.

[boosmama]

i agree with daycare costs. i looked for gideon, as a last resort instead of leaving work 3 months early but they wanted 1200 bucks for fulltime care, thats over half of what i take home.

although im pretty sure this wont be the last baby, anything more than 3 im not so sure about.

[Mary]

It would take a blow to the head. That's about it.

Christi - yay! I'm glad it has turned out the way you wanted it to. *Note to self: go to Hallmark and look for a 'Congrats on your uterine vacancy' card for Christi* :giggle

[Christine]

I really don't think there's anything that would make me want to start all over again. If it were to happen, which would be medically impossible, I'd face that and find it a blessing. But at this point in my life, I'm not choosing it.

[Kristi]

Well I do want another but for it to actually happen we would have to be in a better place financially before a certain point in our lives. We have actually talked about it and if Tim moves up a rank before Izzy starts Kindergarten we may consider it.

[freebiemom]

Well, this is something we talk about every now and again. We have four and I love them more than I ever thought would be possible, but I honestly think I am done. Recently I have been seeing these brand new babies and say "aww . . . so sweet" but I don't get that ache to have another. My youngest just turned one and usually by now I'm ready to start trying again but it hasn't hit me yet. So for us to have another - DH says he'll be thrilled to have another and he'lll be thrilled if we don't, so it's really up to me - it would be for me to have that urge again. But I haven't gotten it yet and really keep thinking our family is complete. We'll see . . .

[jennepenn]

Funny you should ask. I never would have remotely even teased the idea of having another baby a year ago. But now that I have found Mark. I would love to. I had my tubes tied and I know there is a reason for that. I will not question it. It would just be nice.

[Sam]

Gosh, I don't know. I suppose if something happened to one of my kids, I might feel somewhat inclined to have another baby. But, I'd probably only go through with it if someone could fix my hyperemesis. When I was pregnant last time, I remember thinking that even if, God forbid, all my children died, I didn't think I could put myself through another hellish pregnancy. :( It is that miserable.

That as well :)

When I get broody I remember the hellish 8 mths and it helps put me off again.

[Intuition]

I don't know if anything would make me want another. I feel done. It's not something I ever expected, and I am often surprised that I feel that way, but there it is.

Maybe if the kids were older, I was getting adequate help with James and I had a housekeeper and a cook, maybe...

But I still don't think I'd have any more. I'm thrilled to bits with my little boys.

[Shana]

Well, Mike and I were definitely done after 3 children.

What would make me want to have a baby with Brian?

Pretty much, just him saying, "Shana, let's have a baby":lmao That, and I would want our financial situation to be such that I wouldn't need to work.

And those things, my friends, are not going to happen!

[Jenny]

i don't know...it all depends on what the future holds

[Chaimom]

Nadda. I don't want another baby. My friend had a baby and I seen them the other day....and while she is very cute and smells so sweet. I am glad just to look at other peoples babies!!

[MathSpeak]

I once swore off babies... primarily because I didn't want my children to have different fathers... just a thing I had. But, I've come to grips with the fact that it's an inevitability - unless I have a baby with dd's dad... which is less likely to happen than satan skating to work (or whatever Beka said :lmao). So, with that, I can definitely see myself having ONE more after I get married ;) Not sure how I'll work it out with my schedule at work and school and all, but I can never say no to babies... LOL

[Maleah]

I might want another one if I got remarried. I don't know if that would actually happen or not though.

[Shana]

So, with that, I can definitely see myself having ONE more after I get married ;) :noway Is there a story here we need to hear?!?!

[temperandmental]

This is aimed mostly at those who aren't planning another baby. Is it for financial reasons, health reasons, or do you just feel done? Would a change in circumstances make you want another baby, or do you feel like your family is complete no matter what?


I'm trying to think how best to answer this question. Trying for another has been a topic with us for the past five months or so. I'm just - not sure. I don't know if it is a combination of Alex being stillborn and the fear that it may happen again. Rationality never works for me with emotions. So part of me says I'm done having children.

The other part of me feels like I want to try for one more.

If I have no more children, I don't think that I'll feel that my family is incomplete, really. Since we lost Alex, we always feel like someone is missing in a sense, and I don't think that ever leaves.

Wow, I really was a fun read here, wasn't I?

~Kat

[Tobye]

I had three kids between October 2000 and October 2004, and after I had the last one, I told my husband a vasectomy was in order, OR ELSE! Now that Ally (youngest) is three, I wish that I had gone ahead and had four. The cost is tremendous ($1,200/month for daycare and $450/month for Christian school for my 2nd grade daughter), the nights sometimes endless (two nights of middle of night vomiting sessions this week alone) the work exhausting (don't even have a good example here!) but, that said, I would have liked to have an even number.

My son, the middle, is really becoming the stereotypical "middle child", and I know he feels left out between two sisters.