Who stays calm - you or DH?

[freebiemom]

When something happens with the kids, who is the calm one and who flips out? Who is the one handeling things while the other is running around like a chicken with their head cut off?

For us, I'm the calm one. Recently our oldest bumped his head and the biggest knot I've ever seen was there within seconds. DH looked at it and was so upset, thinking he had cracked his skull. So I had to calm DS because he saw how upset his dad got, and then calm DH. It's just so funny that such a manly man can panic when something happens to one of his kids. Sweet, but funny.

[Kristi]

Tim definetly would be. We haven't had anything major happen to any of our kids yet but I am sure if it did I would freak.

[Beka]

ahhh yes- that would be me (I break down when it hits me after its all over)

When Chase broke her leg- i sent David on to his birthday party and sat in ER with my dad

When Jude ran head first into a door frame and left a permanent line in his head, it was me who took him to ER

When Chase and Jude were in a high speed car wreck over 200 mile away on the motorway and had to be bought off the motorway in an ambulance- it was me who organised people to take us the 200 mile to fetch them, take new clothes, food, carseats and actually get us there.

When his mother was hospitalised with chest pains- it was me who organised his whole frigging extended family.

I am "mother" to everyone :rolleyes

[YourMom]

DH. If he were more laidback, he'd fall over.

I, however, am a spaz.

[hillsturner]

I'm the calm one. My husband leaves the area. My oldest daughter and her friend thought it would be a good joke on April Fools day to tell me that one of them was pregnant...they were both 16. I found out later that my daughters friend did not believe that I would not freak out. She was surprised that I was calm and asked straightforward questions. Of course they thought it was funny, I didn't, but I'm glad my daughter knows she can come to me with anything and I won't over react.

[kcmomma]

I too am the calm one who directs people and works in the heat of the moment....it's after wards when I loose it into a good old-fashion crying jag.

[Lori]

It depends on the type of situation. In certain kinds of crises, I stay very calm and Sean doesn't know what to do. In other situations, I'm the one who is freaking out and he stays calm.

Luckily we both seem to have different situations we remain calm in, and don't both end up losing it over the same things!

[stopthat]

i am definatley the laid back one. i hate the panic attacks he has

[CrazyLady]

We're both pretty calm people.

[Cyndi]

We both stay calm. But I'm the one making sure we have everything we need, talking to myself in the process. LOL

[Danielle]

Dh for schizzle! He's much calmer under pressure than I am.

[Desirae]

Um it really depends. We're both pretty good at staying calm but have our moments.

[Sam]

We both stay really calm :)

[Cynthia]

Usually I am the calm one, but every once in a while dh takes that role on quite well.

[gr8mommy]

We both are calm, but I'm the one who knows what to do and gets it done.

[LisaB]

neither...lol

[Jejune]

It depends. I'm squeamish about certain things, and if we're both present, I tend to crumble a little at first (maybe ten seconds or so) and then pull myself together to deal with it. If it's just me, though, I can act without hesitation. Sometimes, though, I can hold it together better than he can. It just depends. Usually whichever one of us is blaming ourself is the one who has more trouble acting.

[Lisa]

eh we both are for the most part. I think it comes with him being an emergency medical person. For me, I've been around them all my life. My Dh followed my mothers footsteps LOL. Now when it comes to things not related to the kids like money issues, we tend to take turns LOL. One of us will freak out while the other will stay rational and calm.