First Love

[Danielle]

Who was your first true love? How old were you?

If you are no longer with them, how did it end?

Do you still miss them in any way?

Do you think your choice of your current dh/so was affected by this relationship?

[Kristen]

Steve-o would be my first. :giggle And last. And I've been with him for 11 years, but married 10.

[Christine]

My first real love was with Dave. There were people that I cared deeply about before I met Dave, but I don't think I really understood what love was until well into mine and Dave's relationship.

[Shana]

I need to preface this by saying that the first true love of my life, is my son, Kaleb. I have been "in love" so many times, and I'll answer this question, but the first time I really knew what true love was -- it was the instant my son was born.

And now, to the fun questions :giggle

Who was your first true love? How old were you? Isaac Zorea. We met when we were 15 and 16. We started dating a year after we met -- and were together for 2 years.

If you are no longer with them, how did it end? It was a long distance relationship. We met when we were both working at a Salvation Army summer camp near Santa Cruz, CA. We hung in there and saw each other for full summers, Christmas breaks, vacations -- but eventually the distance just had us drift apart :sigh

Do you still miss them in any way? I miss his friendship, definitely. He was a very cool guy. He ended up marrying one of my teeaged friends -- so we are still in contact. I actually email with him pretty regularly.

Do you think your choice of your current dh/so was affected by this relationship? Absolutely. Both marriages. My marriage to Mike happened as I was on the rebound from Isaac, and I was still deeply in love with him, when I married Mike:sigh I will forever wish that someone had given me the smack down and told me not to marry Mike. I am eternally grateful for the 3 precious children that our marriage produced, and wouldn't want that to be any different, but still...... a lot of pain and heartbreak could have been avoided :(

The 1st time I saw a picture of Brian (we communicated via IM and email before I ever "saw" him), he instantly reminded me of Isaac physically. His outgoing, friendly, humorous nature reminded me of him as well. However, there are plenty of differences -- Isaac was (still is LOL) very arrogant, self absorbed and all about "himself" and Brian is about the polar opposite of that.

[Faith]

Who was your first true love? How old were you? It was Brandon and we were both 16.

If you are no longer with them, how did it end?We were together for almost 3 years. Looking back, it was more of a friendships as opposed to a real "relationship" but he was my first "boyfriend" so I really didn't know the difference, but I did LOVE HIM and I still love him but differently now. Supposedly he bought me an engagement ring, showed some of my family and my aunt asked him it it was really what he wanted as we were so young. I guess that really made him think and I never got that ring. ;) He came over one day with a letter and told me to open it after he left. :rolleyes LAME. So he dumped me in a letter, I was devastated but it turned out for the best because he is gay. :giggle

Do you still miss them in any way? I do. We are still friends and see each other fairly often but I miss how close we were. Like I said above, it really was more of a best friendship than boyfriend/girlfriend thing so I miss hanging out and talking to him like we used to!! :(

Do you think your choice of your current dh/so was affected by this relationship?Hmm...I don't think so.

[Lori]

Sean was my first love. I had boyfriends before him, but nobody I felt really seriously about. There was somebody I dated very briefly when I was 18, right before I finished high school, who I think I could have fallen in love with if things had worked out, but it didn't go anywhere.

We were 18 when we met, and at this point we've been together for about 11 years.

Do you want to know something weird, though? Sometimes it makes me kind of sad that I don't have some lost love out there. :giggle I occassionally feel like I missed out on something because I've never had the experience of really having my heart broken, or losing a relationship that meant a lot to me. I'm sure it's a bad experience I've missed out on thus far, that I would have hated going through, but I'm odd that way. ;)

[hillsturner]

High School sweetheart Steve. I was 16 and we dated for 4 years (which, at the time seemed like an eternity). We made it through 2 years of long distance and then broke up because it was just too hard. I still keep up with him. It's funny because during some of the darkest years of my marriage I would dream about Steve. I guess because that was a happy time and I was so unhappy. Maybe that's how I held on to some sanity for several years...I don't know.

[Jbird]

My high school sweetheart, Chris. We dated for about two years, from 16-18 for me, 19-21 for him. I think it probably ended because of how different our paths were. When we started dating, we had a lot in common. By the time we broke up, he was in college, I was a sr. with plans to move away for college. Just inevitable. One of those things. The funny thing is that we broke up over the fun after getting into a fight over a song, which he loved and I hated.
Sure I still miss him, like you miss an old friend - haven't talked to him in several years. Found him on Myspace and sent him a message, but he didn't write back.
Don't really think it affects my marriage now, though.

[Desirae]

Who was your first true love? How old were you? Paul was my first love. I was ... 13 when we met and 15 when we acted on what had been there for a while. We started "dating" when I was 16.

If you are no longer with them, how did it end? Ugh, badly... I had to explain to him that I wasn't going to see him since he'd just married the "baby-momma"...no I'm not kidding. He wanted to stay together cause he only married her because it was the "right thing to do". A year later he started calling again after they filed for divorce (I knew he'd be calling as soon as I turned 18 whether he was married or not since my being so young was why he started cheating.) I tried to see him again cause I stil cared for him DEEPLY and so badly wanted it to work but the trust was gone so there was no way. A month later I went on the first date with Sean and the rest is history.

Do you still miss them in any way? I miss his friendship. We were best friends before hand and he knew me inside and out. We still run into each other now and then since he's my best friend's older brother but it's not the same... esp since Sean (obviously) isn't very fond of him...he wouldn't be very comfortable with me hangong out with him much or anything.

Do you think your choice of your current dh/so was affected by this relationship? Not really, I just knew Sean was the one when we started dating.... If anything Sean saved me from giving anymore time to Paul.

[CrazyLady]

I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21 that was 6 years ago. We've been married for 2 1/5 years. He's certainly my first (and only) true love.

[Mary]

Who was your first true love? How old were you?
His name was Steve. We were together when I was 15/16.

If you are no longer with them, how did it end?
He dumped me under pressure from his stupid friends.

Do you still miss them in any way?
Yes, especially since he passed away unexpectedly a couple of years ago. :(

Do you think your choice of your current dh/so was affected by this relationship?
Yep. Robert is similar to Steve in a lot of ways. I'd have always gotten back together with Steve if he'd asked, right up till the time when I met dh when I was 21.

[Danielle]

Who was your first true love? How old were you? Elliott. We were 15 when we started dating and 17 wen we broke up. In all honesty though, we continued to have sex whenever we saw each other until we were about 19-20.

If you are no longer with them, how did it end? I moved to another city, we did the long distance thing for awhile and then he broke up with me in a letter because he felt we were too young to be dating long distance. In retrospect, he was 100% right.

Do you still miss them in any way? I still think of him as a friend and we still e-mail back and forth on birthdays etc.

Do you think your choice of your current dh/so was affected by this relationship? No, not by this relationship.

[Jo]

Who was your first true love? How old were you?
Ben was my first love and I was 15.

If you are no longer with them, how did it end?
We went our separate ways. I went to boarding school my junior year and he went to college the same year. We tried that whole long distance, open ended, tried to be friends stuff but it just kinda burnt itself out.

Do you still miss them in any way?
Yes and no. I would love to see him and his wife now. I know he is married through the gossip chain. But I don't miss him in a romantic way. I do want him to be happy and I am curious to see how differently we probably turned out.

Do you think your choice of your current dh/so was affected by this relationship?
Yes, most definitely in a positive way. I learned early what a good person was in a romantic relationship. Sure, we made mistakes, had our issues, etc but that relationship helped me build the path towards understanding what a mature relationship should be about. We didn't have that mature relationship by any means given our ages but it was a beginning that was built upon in the future for me.

[stopthat]

i was 17. it was my first in everyway. we were together for 3 years but we were young and dumb. i think about it from time to time when i here a old song or drive by a place we hung out. long time ago and i am happy now

[CrazyLady]

I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21 that was 6 years ago. We've been married for 2 1/5 years. He's certainly my first (and only) true love.

Ha! Nice typo, that should read 16 years ago...

[Cyndi]

Dave is my first love.

[Erika]

John was my first love. I met him at a New years eve gig when I was 14. He was tall, blonde and gorgeous. We were together for 9 months and broke up because we were, well, young. And neither of us was very good with monogamy at the time. Too much of the old teen hormones flying around LOL

I do still think of him wistfully but don't miss him. What I have with James, even what I had with him when I first started seeing him, is far greater than our little love affair.