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Faith
12-17-2007, 01:33 AM
My MIL that is!!! :livid OMGosh...this is probably going to be long and SUPER ranty sooo if you are gonna read be prepared....

Well she always has been a b!tch to Rob but it's gotten worse since his dad died in January. She's the type of mother that has favorites and Rob has NOT been one of her favorites EVER. She is also very dramatic and constantly wants attention 24/7.

So the latest thing started last Friday. She calls(which she NEVER calls us, I can count on 1 hand in 10 years how many times she has called here) and tells me she doesn't want us to worry but something was going on with her and she blacked out and wrecked her car the day before. Then that day, she blacked out again when her friend was taking her to run errands, she's "just so scared and worried what's going on" and since Rob's one brother is in Iraq and she can't get ahold of the other brother...."I guess I'll have to just talk to Rob about it." Oh yea...nice way to make him feel like crap.

Anyway, I tell her she should have a friend come over take her to the hospital or at least sit with her at the house so Max(our nephew whom she has custody of) wouldn't be alone if something happened. "Oh NO!! I'm fine I just want Rob to call me when he gets home so I can tell him all about it"....:blahblahblah So I figure she is just being really dramatic but call Rob anyway so he knows and can call her. He calls and calls and calls and she won't answer....She has caller id and screens her calls so you have to talk into the machine before she will pick up so she knows he's calling...just like she wanted but she won't pick up. So he starts getting really worried(probably just what she wanted) and calls her friend that we have a number for and asks her to head over...Oh she's fine...she just didn't want to pick up the phone...NICE!!

Well she ends up going to the ER either later that night or next morning and they think she either had mini strokes or some sort of seizure(need to do more tests)...not sure because when Rob calls to see how she is the next day, she YELLS at him for BUGGING her..."everything is fine...I'm fine so quit calling!!" :headshake...BITCH!! So he decides he's not going to bother with her for a few days...she calls again this past Saturday and proceeds to give him a hard time about not caring about her, and how hard it is for her since his dad died, and his brother being in Iraq...uh..yea the same things that are HARD for Rob to deal with too, duh!! Then she proceeds to tell him all about his brother's wife(she's only met her 1 time, we have never met her) and how she is "the best daughter in law". :lmao and how she wishes they would give her "a grandbaby, because that baby would be the best thing." HOLY SHIT!! I thought Rob was gonna jump through the phone and knock her out!! It hurts that she treats him badly but it REALLY hurts him that she doesn't really treat Shelby all that great either...she isn't mean to her or anything but she's basically nothing unless she is around...no gifts, no cards, no phone calls, MIL doesn't even have a picture of Shelby hanging on her walls at home.

So today, we hear through the grapevine that she actually told someone she wrecked her car because she had been talking to Rob and he made her so mad and upset about something, she lost control of the car and wrecked!! WTH?? Can you believe that?? What kind of mother does that??? UGH!! He called her to let her know that what's being said is getting back to him, but she of course denied it!! :sigh

OMGosh...I feel so bad for Rob. I can really tell this is all hurting him so much. I think he is finally to the point that he's done with her but it's still hard for him.

Beka
12-17-2007, 01:49 AM
:squeeze Faith- we can find a big box and lock her in it with my fil, sounds like they'd make tremendous company for each other.

Do NOT let her get to you with the baby comment- people like he know exactly what's going to hurt and don't have enough class to know it's crossing a line to say it. (and actually think about it, maybe the new dil has some sense about her if she's only met mil once :giggle ) David's dad bitches and whines about each of his kids in turn to each other - only one of them likes him, and that's largely because she's never got over the whole "daddy doesn't love me" from their parents divorce and runs after any scrap of attention she can get - and he's cruelest about her when he starts gossiping to people but she just doesn't know.

Danielle
12-17-2007, 04:32 AM
:hugs Faith. I'm sorry :(.

Kristi
12-17-2007, 04:42 AM
Wow she has problems. I am sorry for you and Shelby and Rob that you have to deal with that. :hugs

Shana
12-17-2007, 07:17 AM
:squeeze Faith... that is so hard :sigh And yes, poor Rob!! Sounds like he was doing his very darndest to be a good son and to have that kind of crap thrown back in your face - UGH!!!!

Lots and lots of hugs and squeezes and prayers to you. I know you are going through a hard enough time right now, without adding this crazy lady into the mix :squeeze

Amber
12-17-2007, 07:42 AM
Good gracious. It sounds like she has some MAJOR issues. :squeeze

Desirae
12-17-2007, 08:15 AM
Oh she is just cruel! I'm sorry Faith.:squeeze Can you guys just write her off? In this situation it may be best!

Kristen
12-17-2007, 09:26 AM
:eek My goodness! I never heard of such an awful mother...I just can't believe she'd do that to her own son. :(

Sam
12-17-2007, 09:28 AM
:squeeze

She sounds a right piece of work.......

SabrinaJL
12-17-2007, 11:46 AM
:squeeze Nothing but empathy here, Faith. I, too, have a real shitty MIL.

DH is her only child, yet she never seemed to care for him. She ignored Krysten until she was about 9 years old. I mean, she would literally not speak to her when we were around them. My mom thought I was exaggerating until she took Krysten over to see DH's grandma and his mom happened to be there. My mom was shocked. She said, "She didn't speak to her the whole time! Not once! Not even to say hi!"

She cut us out of her life for 2 years because one year we didn't buy them x-mas gifts or tell them we were leaving town. Recently she developed cancer so all of a sudden, she wants to have a relationship with us. She called MY mom to find out what DH is into so she could get him an xmas gift. How bad is it when you have to call your son's MIL to find out his interests? She told my mom that she bought Krysten earrings as a gift. Krysten doesn't even have her ears pierced. :rolleyes

Sorry to hijack your rant with my own rant. It's just a hot button for me. :squeeze to you again, Faith.

Polly
12-17-2007, 11:51 AM
Hmmm...she could be experincing personality problems due to a neurological conditions. It's possible. Or, she could just be getting meaner.

Sorry for Rob!

Polly

Maleah
12-17-2007, 01:33 PM
Wow. How crazy is that?! I wish I had some kind of advice. Best I have is to offer an old lady butt whooping. :)

giana
12-17-2007, 04:00 PM
One of the things I have learned in my life is that I should have married an orphan Faith...apparently so should you

Christi
12-17-2007, 07:20 PM
:squeeze Faith! That is awful!! I'm sorry that ya'll have to deal with someone who is so self centered and ugly!

Faith
12-17-2007, 11:50 PM
Thanks everyone for responding...I needed to vent about this soo badly. It's sad that there is more than one of us having to deal with the same thing! :hugs

Rob feels a little better today about things and we have basically decided to try and cut ties, as much as we can. We still need to be in contact with her because of Max(our nephew). We really wished we had a ton of money to get a lawyer and try for custody one more time.

As for her having neurological issues, I don't think that's it...and she isn't getting meaner either, she's just finally showing me her "true colors". For the longest time I didn't understand why Rob hated his mother so much...she was always a different person with me than what he had always complained about. I have always pushed him to get close to his family like I am with mine, what a mistake that was...I now realize NOT everyone needs to be close to their family!! :lmao

Stacy
12-18-2007, 04:45 PM
You are so right giana! I should of married a orphan also... I will keep that in mind for the next time LMAO

kcmomma
12-19-2007, 05:01 PM
:hugs to all of you