Putting Up With It.

[Shana]

I was reading something else in another forum that sparks this question.

No one is perfect -- and this, I have come to accept a LOOOOONG time ago. What I'm wondering is -- what do YOU put up with, personality or "quirk" wise, from your Spouse or your Significant Other?

Does it make you totally crazy, or is it one of those "awwww, he's so cute" type of things?

And.... do you think that he/she puts up with anything from YOU :D

[Jo]

Dave is super intense. Very few people realize it or even know it. I am actually not sure we would be together now if we hadn't been friends for years before we dated. Luckily, I knew what I was getting into. It can be very difficult at times but it can also be a wonderful trait. It just depends on the situation.

He puts up with a lot from me.LOL I have adhd and I guess I am really lucky he has a background in psychology. While he doesn't give me a free pass for everything, he understands what is worth getting upset with me over and what isn't where my adhd is concerned.

[SabrinaJL]

DH is COMPLETELY anal. He makes list for everything and things have to be done yesterday. It doesn't usually drive me nuts until he follows me around putting things away while I'm cooking (usually stuff I'm still using). :rolleyes

I'm very much a go-with-the-flow, non-planning kind of gal (which I know drives him nuts).

[Jenny]

there is a lot I put up with and vice versa. I am not sure what excactly right no

[Sam]

I put up with his tea making LOL he puts sugar and tea all over the worktops and uses spoon after spoon. He drinks around 30 cups of tea a day.

On a deeper level I put up with his bipolar moods,however I don't like saying I put up with it as such because while it can be hard it also makes him more of a beautiful person in my eyes :)

He puts up with my OCD and at times insane jealousy.

[Christine]

We both put up with a lot, but I think we've become more used to the traits over the years so it's not such a burden.

Dave worries a lot and that can be very frustrating - especially when I get tired of being the optimist. But I also like being able to lift him out of his funks too.

He's put up with some pretty extreme moods from me over the years. ;)

[Kristen]

Hmm...I know that Steve puts up with my complete inability to be spontaneous. I do try, but I am just not very good at that at all! He also is very forgiving of my desire to have my way when it comes to decorating and design decisions around the house. :D

As far as he goes...he does tend to talk A LOT, and sometimes, that drives me nuts! LOL also, he tends to be very principle-of-the-thing, and paranoid that people are out to get him, and sometimes this drives me CRAZY! Some hills are just not worth dying on, but he usually doesn't see this. Like, when we were buying our first house, something happened with the mortgage, and he was sure the mortgage people were screwing us, and so we very nearly lost the house over a $15 a month increase in the mortgage. His family is very paranoid, and so I know a lot of it is just the way he was raised, but still, it drives me nuts. Sometimes I just want to say, "dear husband of mine, could you for once give someone the benefit of the doubt????".

Now, of course, he thinks that I am way too gullible and that I think too well of people, so he'd probably say that's one of the things he puts up with from me! LOL

[Shana]

Mine would be Brian's attention to detail. Now, don't get me wrong, being attentive is a GREAT quality, but he can carry it REAAAAALLLLLLY far. Sometimes I feel as if I'm being micro-managed LOL Every morning before he leaves for work, he reminds me of all of the things that I need to do today:rolleyes Okay mmm hmmm thanks honey, I am sure I wouldn't do anything without you reminding me every 5 minutes :bite me

And just a really funny one.... Brian hates clothes LOL No sooner has he walked in the door, then he has dropped his pants and thrown off his shirt, so that he is just wearing boxers and a t-shirt. I have come home to find his clothes in various assorted places, like say -- the kitchen :lmao For some reason he just cannot walk into the bedroom and get his stuff into the hamper :dunno

Eh.... as to me -- the thing that bugs Brian about me the most, I think, is that I can tend to be just a tad bit forgetful (which okay is probably why he has that irritating aformentioned quirk). I remember the REALLY important things, but yeah.... I have been known to completely forget about stuff at times. It makes him nuts :D

[Lori]

Basically, I'm pretty sure I'm a saint, because I put up with A LOT. ;) I love Sean dearly, but he has some traits and habits that just make me absolutely insane.

The biggest is that he is extremely critical and perfectionistic, which comes out in several ways, each more irritating to me than the next. It takes him about four times longer to do things around the house than it takes me, because he needs to do it perfectly, so of course he never wants to do them, because it takes so long. And then he'll be critical of how I do them. If he doesn't agree with something I say, he will just keep coming after me about it, until I just refuse to talk about it any more. (I should say, he doesn't do that with ANYBODY else. He's a very shy person and tends to be very agreeable with other people, which is probably why he is so argumentative with me.) And, the one that really drives me insane, he responds really, really badly to people making mistakes, himself included. I'm kind of a "Okay, that's fine, we'll clean it up and try again" kind of person, whereas he honestly believes that if you make someone feel bad enough about making a mistake, they won't make it again. His parents are that way, and it just infuriates me. I think the last time it happened was about two years ago when I accidently dropped a glass and broke it, and he just would not stop telling me that I needed to be more careful, I needed to pay more attention to what I was doing, and on and on. But he knows now that that is totally unacceptable to me, and he hasn't done it in a while.

He's also very gloomy and pessimistic, which can make me crazy. And, he never, ever wants to talk about the future or make concrete plans, which is particularly irritating given my personality.

On the other hand, I have some very annoying traits, too. I tend to be completely in my head a lot of the time, and just not really notice what's going on around me, which causes me to be forgetful and messy and just generally kind of oblivious. And, I'm a huge planner, probably to the point of being annoying.

[Erika]

James on the whole is a laid back sweetheart but he does have his moments.

He can be quite reactionist, right wing and judgemental when it comes to some social issues so we do end up butting heads there alot. But when it comes down to individual cases he is very compassionate so that helps.
He is also a techie who can go into a lot of detail with some stories which leaves my eyes glazing over. I also put with up with computer and computer parts literally ALL over the house (next to the butter dish even and sometimes even in the bathroom). And this dude has an aversion to washing pots yet uses about 10 when cooking.

But to be fair, he is so loving and thoughtful and puts up with my mad mood swings and perfectionist, near OCD traits. He has put up with and dealt with so much from me over the years and has proved and shown his love to me over and over.

[Jejune]

Ours are both fairly serious, but it's the only thing I could think of. Daniel has anger issues and I have anxiety issues. He doesn't blow his stack often, but when he does, it's fully out of proportion and often frightening to me, even if he's never threatened me. I just don't like yelling, and he's of the type who yells and maybe punches a wall when angry. Like I said, it's rare, and he's working hard on it, but it's definitely tough.

And on my end, my anxiety can be almost crippling, and there are times when I can't make phone calls without hyperventilating, or really get anything done, and he has to pick up my slack at those times. I'm also working on it.

We had those issues before we were together, so I don't see them as a problem with our relationship, per se, but they're definitely the major stressors within the relationship.

[SabrinaJL]

Mine would be Brian's attention to detail. Now, don't get me wrong, being attentive is a GREAT quality, but he can carry it REAAAAALLLLLLY far. Sometimes I feel as if I'm being micro-managed LOL Every morning before he leaves for work, he reminds me of all of the things that I need to do today:rolleyes



Mine is the same way. Every now and then he'll even throw out, "Maybe you should be writing this down."

Ummm, no. Maybe YOU should be writing this down and when you are done, take that list and shove it right up the orifice of your choosing. :whatever

[Amber]

He's messy. Very very VERY messy.

Also, he is completely incapable of listening to me if he is doing anything else. Seriously anything. If he is tying his shoes, he has to stop to listen to me. He can't do both at the same time. It isn't such a big deal anymore...I just say "Can you listen for a sec" before I say anything. That one little step has saved us SO much fighting.

And eternally pessimistic. I'm usually optimistic, which I'm sure is just as annoying :giggle.

Also, I have major procrastination problems. He's really patient about it though.