Friends in real life?

[amandajo]

Do you hang out with friends in real life? I just ask, because lately, I have been trying to be social.
Anyway, I have hung out with some fun mommies I really like. I have been trying. But I just feel like I'm a little rusty, though. I take care of a 2 year old and I work in the domestic violence field, so it is hard for me to hang out with "nice" people and not tell a bunch of terrible jokes. Demented and sad, but social. A star to you if you know where that quote is from.
People like to eat food and hang out and just chat for hours. I am way too stressed out!

[Beka]

Judd Nelson in Breakfast club LOL the ultimate in 80s movie bad boys :lmao Ohhhh that film was a corner stone of my childhood :rofl

Me am I social? Once you get me there, yes, when I know I have to go somewhere? I am seriously breathing into a paper bag, big time - I am EVIL to be around when i am getting ready to go out into an unfamiliar situation but once I am there you'd never guess it!

I have very few people I chose to just hang out with for nothing other than hanging out- 2 good friends from school who stuck with myself and my odd husband through having our eldest at 18- 1 is now a teacher, one is in the police and it's odd that we've all grown up but we can still hang out like way back when which is nice. I don't have to put on any sort of a front with them or watch what I say at all- they've known me forever and I can be sat around in an unkempt house in my PJs and not feel out of sorts if they turn up.

Socially aside from them it has to have a purpose- I am really active in my local community but that took a huuuuge leap of faith for me to do that and at first I really worried I would not cope or have anything valid to say that anyone wanted to hear but a couple of years on and i am thriving in it, actively getting myself into more committees and volanteer stuff because I can! for me it took breaking out of the old "me" and finding that I had other sides that could be interesting too- the committees I'm on my opinion as a parent is really valued, something that is pretty redundant in my old social circles where no one has kids.

[Christine]

It's taken me a long time to find women that I could hang out with for hours. I have been blessed in the past couple of years to develop some really great friendships. I don't censor myself, though, and just let it all hang out. The people that I spend time with know that about me and love that and I don't have to be someone else, you know? It took me a long time to find people like that.

[Kate]

Damn...the star has been claimed, because I was all set to do it.

But to answer the question, I do have some wonderful IRL friends. Some I don't see very often because of time and distance, but others I see very frequently.

I will say I have more aquaintances then really good friends - but I guess that applies to most people.

[Kristi]

I can be social. I have to get to know someone a bit first. I am always kind of awkward and shy in the beginning when I first meet someone. But it doesn't take too long for me to open up and feel comfortable if I truly like someone.

[Jbird]

I like to be social, as long as I get my quiet time, too. But I have a really hard time getting to know people beyond the acquaintance level. It takes me a long time. I guess I'm a little guarded. And I think it's even more difficult in a small town, where I didn't grow up. Everyone knows everyone already, and everyone has their friend groups. But it's getting easier, gradually.

[Shana]

I'm extremely social and enjoy people in a huge way, but don't feel the need to be the center of attention ;)

I have 3 very close friends. I can share anything in my life safely with these ladies. I have a pretty large circle of acquaintances, some of whom are on "friend" status -- but I'm not sure I would want to spend hours with any of them.

[Jejune]

I don't really have many yet since we moved.

[Kristi]

I should add that my two best friends who I could talk to for days and never get bored don't live anywhere near me. One is Fla and one is in Texas. But i have two very close friends here that I can easily spend hours with at a time. But anyone else I only tend to want to be with for short amounts of time.

[SabrinaJL]

I don't really have many yet since we moved.

And it doesn't help that I only stayed in San Diego for a month and a half before coming back to NM. We did meet a nice family through CAVA that Krysten and I really like. And before I left I went to a knitting meetup. It was a lot of fun. I plan on keeping up with that when I get back.

[Brooke]

Yup I do. Not as often as I'd like, but enough that it's not rare. If that makes sense. LOL

I have two friends from high school that I see probably monthly or every couple months. We usually do dinner and drinks with nights that last from 7pm - usually 11 or 11:30.

I have just made a pretty good friend at Xander's school. She has a son in his class and her daughter is Kyle's best friend. We chat a lot when dropping off the kids and on Fridays, we usually have the kids play together while the older two are in school (8-11am)

We also hang out with our "couple" friends a lot.

[Renita]

Most definitely!!!

I am not from Chicago originally and we have NO family here, so I didn't know anybody when we moved here. But after 7 years, I have several good friendships with other mommies....some closer than others, but nonetheless, I consider them friends (yes Brooke, you are included). I just find it so hard to find the TIME to get together with all of them. One girlfriend I can count on seeing at least once a week because our daughters are the same in age and they are totally bff! :giggle Plus it gives us a good excuse to hang out and have a glass of wine.....ha! We help each other plan birthday parties for all our girls....babysit overnight for each other, vent to each other about our men......sometimes I need her to bring me back to the real world....kwim?

But like I said....there is just never enough TIME.

[Amber]

I don't actually see friends very often. I have loads of acquaintances, but only a handful of close friends, most of whom live out of town.

[Sam]

Not anymore no. My main friend is now my worst enemy and we are having to move because of her, my other main friend was toxic so I rarely see her now. I have been too lazy to go out and see my OCD support group friends and I don't make friends easily.

I have a lot of people I can talk to on the phone if I want, I go out with my mum quite a bit and Tom is pretty much always at home and I enjoy his company more than anyones so I never get lonely.