Has he ever really hurt you?

[Sam]

Emotionally?

Can you remember the time he hurt you the most? how long did it take you to get over the hurt? How did you get over it? (if you don't mind sharing,totally understand someone not wanting to share the details)

Me and Tom have an amazing relationship,I love him with all my heart and he totally adores me but for the first time in just over a year he hurt me badly. I won't go into details,he wasn't horrible to me,he didn't even hurt me on purpose but he managed to do a good job of it. He has been crying his eyes out all day because of what he done (it wasn't that bad,anyone else would brush it off but for ME it is a big issue) and is trying to make it up to me. We have talked all day,we have cuddled,cried and discussed it and for the most part got over it but I am still feeling shitty.


I know it happens and I am sure it will not be the last time he hurts me accidentally but this has really hit me hard.

The funny thing is I am sure in a few weeks time I will laugh about it. It was a case of me over reacting because I have a bit of PND OCD/Anxiety/hormones everywhere thing going on and him not thinking.

One minute I want to cuddle him because I love him so much but the next minute I want to smack him around the head with my pool cue LOL J/K I don't want to hurt him really ;)

[Jo]

:hugs Sam. There have been a couple of times Dave hurt me. It was earlier in our relationship. At the time he meant to. I can't blame him though, I was kind of difficult at the time to say the least. I got over it because I am rarely capable of holding a grudge and much talking. But that is just me.

I am sorry Tom hurt you. But it is good for him to understand how whatever he did affected you. It sounds like he is very sorry. This will probably be one of those building blocks that shore up your relationship when you look back at this someday.

[Beka]

:hugs i think it's a normal part of early relationships where you're still really getting to know each other but there's added pressure of a new baby and issues like PND to contend with as well, David has hurt me in the past at times when i've been vunerable emotionally and although he couldn't have foreseen it would hurt me it's not made it feel any less painful- the important thing is you can and will work through it, both of you, although i know that's not easy to believe when you've had a previous serious relationship & marriage deteriorate drastically in the past but he's not James (thank heavens ;) ) and shouldn't be judged by the standards a lesser man set.

He's remorseful, he's upset he upset you and i think that's a pretty good sign that rather than be the beginning of things crumbling this is infact the beginning of learning how to build a solid lasting relationship ready for marriage and ready to live out into old age together

[Sam]

Thanks :) I woke up this morning and kinda wondered what all the fuss was about.

I also got a lovely email,it was beautiful.

So yeah he hurt me,but hey that is what happens at times right? We have talked none stop about it and I think we have got to the root of the problem,which funnily enough has nothing to do with what he did but everything to do with me being scared due to past relationships.

Thanks for your replies and I agree that this is a good sign. Our first argument (well not argument as such) and we discussed it and got over it :)

[Lori]

There have been a few times when Sean has really said things that hurt me badly. Like Jo, I'm not very good at holding a grudge, and so they were things that we just talked through and eventually I felt better about it. I've said things that hurt him, too, and I know that, when I've done it, even though what I said felt very true at the time, I really just wanted to say something to make him feel as bad as I was feeling at that moment, and it's not really how I felt.

The time he most hurt me was an action, not something he said, and that took a loooooooooong time to get over. Like, well over a year long. But we just kept talking through it, and I knew he really felt awful about it and was committed to making things work, so I stuck with it and we did end up moving past it.

[Desirae]

Oh yes, I know he didn't mean it to hurt but it cut me down to nothingness and I still have times that I wonder about it. Fortunately it hasn't been an issue as of late though. ;)
:hugs Sam (even though this was a while ago;))

[Jenny]

We have been together since the ice age, so I can safely say he has hurt me numerous of times. I can't think of a specific right now, becuase things are 'all good' as of now and i tend to get rid of evil thoughts/memories when I am happy LOL