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I have finally written out and posted my birth story. It is very long so I will just link to where it's posted on my blog and anyone who's interested can read it there. :)
www.incorrigiblenightowl.com
Jennee
04-01-2007, 11:16 AM
i dont see the birth story there
Jennee, I didn't find it on the main page, either, but it's the first link under "Recent Entries." Now I'm off to read it. ;)
That's weird.
Here's a link directly to the entry: Birth Story (http://www.incorrigiblenightowl.com/archives/2007/03/eliza_claires_birth_story.html)
Jenny
04-01-2007, 11:34 AM
you just have to click on the text that says "grab a coffee"
I think this is the most interesting birthstory I have read :D Congrats!!!
Erika
04-01-2007, 11:41 AM
COngrats again Mary. You did incredibly and again I have to say how much I adore her name and how cute she is!
Jennee
04-01-2007, 01:24 PM
i read that already, but i still think its a great story!
did you ever get an apology from the midwife?
Desirae
04-01-2007, 01:35 PM
Awesome birth story, Mary! :D Thanks for sharing.
Wow, Mary! You and Robert did awesome!
I cannot understand why your midwives would have told you not to go to the hospital. I can understand being wary of too much intervention, but in the case of an unassisted homebirth, I think you guys made absolutely the right call going in, and I personally would have been royally pissed off at somebody who didn't make it to the birth and then told me not to have my baby checked at the hospital.
Thomas had the exact same problems (blood sugar and temp) when he was born. There was no reason they could find for it, and the general consensus of the doctors and nurses was that the stress of the delivery (I had pushed for 4-1/2 hours, which was extremely stressful for both of us) had caused it. I wonder if in your case the stress of the unassisted birth, for both of you, was the cause?
I'm really glad everything turned out well, and now you have a really good story!
I didn't even post the best part of it -- you know who showed up here? The two assistants. The frigging midwife was still up in the city, and hour-and-a-half away. So apparently she STILL didn't believe anything was happening just then when I called and sent the two assistants down to report back to her when it was "really" time (this is just my assumption, as I can't imagine any other explanation).
When the assistants got here and found I'd gone they made some comment to dh about the paramedics "just wanting to use their machines" (referring to them putting Eliza on oxygen). WTF???
Heather
04-01-2007, 07:03 PM
Wow! Good for you :D. Glad everything turned out well. She'll like hearing about it when she's older ;). Pretty name, btw. LOL I have to admit.. your story scares the hell out of me, when I think how fast my last 2 labors were. LOL I don't know if I could count on Steelo to hang in there for that kind of drama lol.. I'd be birthin' a baby by myself. Then again, I guess you never know how you'll handle something until you're in that situation eh? You guys did good.
And I don't think you're allowed to call yourself a wimp.. even if the pain was killing you. Unmedicated labor hurts like a bitch and you're allowed to yell and scream if need be-it can take over and it's not the easiest thing to just sit there, be quiet and Take it like a man.. ya know? I know the feeling of the pain combined with absoloute fear though(that was delivery #2 for me) and it's a scary, scary moment. You did good. Congrats on your new little girl.
giffy
04-01-2007, 07:13 PM
Congratulations, Mary. She is adorable, and I think you're very brave. Don't beat yourself up about how you responded to what was happening to you - it sounds perfectly natural to me, and very similar to how I responded to being in transition. All I really remember of it was lying on the bed sobbing "I can't do this!"
You did well, and you absolutely did the right thing in going to the hospital. I'd be having some major words with the midwife about her absence, too.
Don't beat yourself up about how you responded to what was happening to you - it sounds perfectly natural to me, and very similar to how I responded to being in transition. All I really remember of it was lying on the bed sobbing "I can't do this!"
I don't even remember, but apparently I spend the last 2 hours of pushing asking "Why is this happening? I just don't understand. Why is this happening?" and sobbing.
I do remember that during the last twenty minutes or so I was making so much noise I told the nurses I was afraid I was scaring the other patients. They told me I was just making the other patients glad they'd gotten an epidural. :giggle
wendygrace
04-01-2007, 10:27 PM
Congrats! Great birth story! So sorry to hear about the midwives. How very strange that she didn't believe you and come out. But you did good. I had a waterbirth at the hospital and I screamed like mad. Afterwards I worried about all the noise I made but that's ok. It was my birth. :) Congrats again and Welcome Baby Eliza!
Jejune
04-01-2007, 10:48 PM
Don't beat yourself up about how you responded to what was happening to you - it sounds perfectly natural to me, and very similar to how I responded to being in transition. All I really remember of it was lying on the bed sobbing "I can't do this!"
Agreed. I tried to trick the nurses into giving me an epidural the second time. I grabbed Daniel and told him, "I am LUCID. I need an epidural." I figured using the word lucid would convince him. It might have worked, sort of, if I hadn't followed that up with, "You have to give me an epidural now because I have to push." The first time I demanded an epidural at transition, too, and they were actually all set up to give me one when I screamed, "I have to push right NOW!"
Mary, you're amazing. Eliza is such a lucky girl to have you for her mama.
yummymommy
04-02-2007, 07:02 PM
What an awesome story Mary! You did so well, Eliza is so lucky to have such a strong mamma like you :squeeze
Tamika
04-04-2007, 04:16 PM
Oh Mary! First off CONGRATS!!!! I'm so happy for you!! :D
Second.....reading your blog about panicking and not knowing if you had hours to go or not rang a huge bell with me. That was EXACTLY the way I was with Kieran. I thought I had HOURS AND HOURS to go as I'd been barely dilated when my midwife had checked me earlier. Little did I know I was in transition and about 5 minutes from pushing. I too panicked and was out of control - but, I had a midwife who listened to me and came when i called. Therefore she was able to reassure me, and able to help me get control. that is where your story would have turned completely.
I totally agree with Lori that its possible the stress of the whole delivery was a big culprit in Eliza's temp issues - and if your midwife had been there she would have been able to avoid that.
Midwives are awesome - if they listen to their moms!